Post # 1
Sorry for the all-caps but I’m SO upset, I’m crying in my office at work! My fiance and I had picked out a perfect venue for our reception, it was at one of our favorite speakeasy bars in the city! We’ve had our hearts set on this location since before we got engaged!!!
We were all set to hand over a deposit this week when the venue emails my fiance and tells him that “someone in management passed away so they can’t book ANY events for the coming year.” WTF is this???
It’s not like we were trying to pick out some random ballroom somewhere, we chose this bar in particular since it’s absolutely beautiful, and we chose it since we’re not having anything else wedding-traditonal at the reception: no cake, no dancing, nothing! It was SUPPOSED to be just great cocktails in a beautiful space with a few close friends, and now that’s RUINED!!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale
Oh no. That’s horrible. Take a few deep breaths. It’s not ruined- there are a ton of spaces to throw one hell of a party in SF. We looked at a lot of them, PM me if you need some ideas.Plus, you are getting married in ‘off season’ so you may be able to get a great deal somewhere else.
All hope is not lost. Hugs.
Post # 4
That’s horrible! BIG (((HUGS))) going out to you!!!
Good luck on finding something new…I’m sure that Peep Toe can offer you MANY great ideas!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry!!! *HUGS* I’m sure you’ll be able to figure something out!
Post # 6
The other thing is that if the management person just recently passed away, the bar may hire someone to replace him eventually. Right now they may be too overwhelmed to deal with any new business, but eventually someone should take over if this was profitable. You should start looking at other venues as a backup, but it is possible that the situation will be resolved with this bar in a month or two.
Post # 7
Oh my gosh, I’m SO sorry! That’s really awful. We also had our heart set on one venue, and luckily, it worked out, but I can’t imagine if they backed out on us.
Stay positive. The good news is, you still have time to look for another venue. Thanks about what if this had happened a few months before your wedding, AFTER you signed a contract! If you’re in SanFran, you probably have a lot of options. And just remember, the most important thing about your wedding is that you two get married. Everything else is icing on the cake!
Keep your chin up … it really WILL work out.
Post # 8
I’m so sorry to hear this. My sister had the same thing happen, although her place folded (luckily they got the deposit back) and although they didn’t have their wedding at their dream place, they still had an awesome time. Good luck!
Post # 9
sorry to hear that. but if you didn’t have a deposit down there isn’t much you can do or much they owe you.
Post # 10
maybe its a sign to go another route
Post # 11
Thanks for all the kind words. I know SF has a lot of great places to have a wedding reception, it’s just that both of us wanted to avoid a “traditional reception” and everything that usually accompanies it.
I’m just so overwhelmed with trying to find somewhere else that could possibly even come close to what we would have gotten at our first choice. I told my fiance I don’t even feel like having a reception now; I just want to have our City Hall ceremony as planned and be done with it.
As he pointed out, this could be way worse if it had happened closer to our date, which is true. It’s just hard to focus on anything but being disappointed right now.
@peeptoe Thanks for the offer, I’ll message you sometime this week or next 🙂
Post # 12
maybe you can check in with the venue again in a couple of weeks. if someone has only just died then at the moment there is too much happening for managment decisions
fingers crossed for you
Post # 14
I’m sorry. I agree with Eloping though, check back in a few weeks after people at the venue have calmed down some.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry to hear that!! Good luck finding a better venue, and I think you should definitely talk to peeptoe!
Post # 16
Oh no! I am so sorry! That sucks. My venue had a minor mishap and I made sure the contract stated that they owed me twice my wedding budget if they canceled on me. Make sure you have a similar contract down when you settle on your next one. Good luck!