(Closed) My very confusing, frustrating, relationship dilemma!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

this is in fact very confusing. i would just keep doing what you guys are doing right now until you move in 6 months, and i would postpone getting the dog, which seems to be the bigger issue as you have nowhere to put him

 

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just don’t get the dog until you have a place where you can keep him/her.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

yeah, I wouldnt get the dog. Unless maybe it’s a rescue in desperate need of a home.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@sept22insf:  yeah, but thing is.. she doesn’t have said home

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You owe it to a dog to have an appropriate home for it once you adopt it.  Just wait until later to get a dog.  There are plenty of dogs.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would wait on the dog. That seems to simplify this situation. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@bebero:  well, the dog would if the OP did one of the more complicated arrangements to get housing. But if the dog isn’t destined for a shelter and is from a breeder (which would be sad to me actually), then perhaps a different owner would claim it. Irish Wolfhounds are enormous and sadly bc of their size they don’t llong more than 7 years typically, dying of bone cancer usually. Ugh, breeding sucks. Wow! That was a big tangent and probably unwarranted. sorry!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@echolove:  Wait, I’m confused. It sounded from your op that the irish wolfound was the reason you were getting this separate apartment with your sister…but you already have two dogs?

Don’t get me wrong, LDRs suck. But they’re also becoming more of a reality for us given the economy. It’s not like your Fiance is in the military, where he would be gone for months at a time. It sounds like you’ll still get to see him regularly with his job with your brother-in-law. And skype helps. It also sounds like you guys have a deadline in place for the end of the LDR — either six months or a year. And that’s a long time, but it does have an endpoint.

Personally? If getting the irish wolfhound in june (and subsequently renting the house with your sister) means you have to potentially spend a year in a LDR with your husband, I would wait on getting the wolfhound, or ask the breeder if your deposit can be put toward a puppy in a future litter. Or I would explain to your sister up front that you won’t be in the house past a certain date, maybe even put that date in writing. She might change her mind about that decision as well if she thinks she would need to find another roommate.

I also would hold off on getting the wolfhound because it seems like you will be raising it in a very different environment than the one you and your Fiance intend to settle in. Have you talked the breeder about having the dog in a home with four kids (especially if they are young kids)? Because four kids, four adults, and two other dogs seems like a pretty full house for a young dog.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Why get the dog now? You can get a dog later on… there’ll still be dogs in six months time.

 

As a side note, adopt don’t buy. There are thousands of dogs who need homes, there’s no need to go to a breeder. Adopted dogs are just as good.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@echolove:  can you simplify this? It’s really confusing. A few bullet points and a question would make it easier. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

if im reading this right just dont get the flat with your sister  and it makes thingsbetter. apart from the dog is there any other reason you hav to get the flat??

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think there will always be puppies and breeders in the future. My FI’s parents bought a spanish water dog from a breeder, and the dog was expected to be old enough to bring home in May, just as my Future Mother-In-Law was finishing up the school year (she’s a teacher) so she could care for it all summer. Surprise! Mama dog had trouble getting pregnant so the dog actually came in September.

It would suck a lot to do all this moving if things don’t go to plan.

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