- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Okay, so, on top of a post I just wrote about being very sad that the wedding experience is over, I am dealing with major drama. Please Please PLEASE lend your advice. I am in tears over this and just don’t knwo what to do!
Videographer was booked, seemed super professional, loved his work, had GREAT reviews. We wanted him to come early and get us all getting ready, do some interviews, that sort of thing. Well, as soon as he got there it was evident that he was very arrogant and awkward. Instead of pulling me or husband aside to ask us how we felt, he would show up amidst us doing something, stick his camera with a BRIGHT light in our faces and say, “what do you have to say?” I knew that he was trying to prompt, so could improvise, but husband was PISSED to have a bright light stuck in his face by this guy who was rudly asking questions.
Here is where the real issue comes in. For my wedding present to husband, I made him a photoalbum of a boudoir shoot I did. I asked the videographer to make sure he recorded husband opening his gift, so I could later see his reaction. Well, I find out later that he instead recorded the ALBUM. Husband asked him to please not record the album, as it was private for him only, but videographer continued to and even said “ooh my” which prompted husband to close teh album, not even allowing him to enjoy or see the present I worked so hard to make him.
Husband came to me and asked if I had asked videographer to record the album. I told him absolutely not, that I had requested him to record your reaction to the gift and your face. Well, apparently this didn’t go down as I had asked. That’s fine. Husband was going to go ask him to please delete that footage so as to be sure that it iddn’t end up online or in the video.
Husband and two of his groomsmen who were there when he asked him not to record it orinigally went down and spoke to videographer. Husband asked him to please delete it…this is wehre it falls apart. Videographer starts yelling and blaming ME and saying he didn’t want to see that nasty shit and that I MADE him do it and told him he HAD to record the book. He told husband “you should be mad at your wife because that is disgusting and I told her I didn’t wnat to do it” (none of which is true!!!). At this point, husband and groomsmen were getting mad, and husband basically said, delete it and get back in there to do your job.
Videographer went back in, and the next thing I know, is he has disapeared. HE is nowhere to be found. We paid him for teh ENTIRE event, the ENTIRE reception. The ONLY part of the reception he got on tape was the entrance. HE left without talking to ME…the bride, or mom…the person PAYING HIM TO BE THERE! I have no video of my first dance, my dance with my father, the dances with my grandmother, or the toasts, or the songs. NOthing. I am so so so upset.
I dont’ know what to do. I am terrified he has deleted ALL of it, and we have NO video. Should I wait to contact him until the date the contract says he will give us a video? Or since he already breeched his contract, go ahead and contact? I am terrified he will put those pictures online or delete our wedding.
Please help me. What do I do!?!?!?