Post # 1
I hired a violinist that I met at a bridal bizarre. He is very talented and really is in a league of his own. The problem is he’s a total flake. I’ve explained to him that his lack of follow up with me makes me anxious and with two months to go I’m considering asking for my deposit back.
Am I just stressin’ or is this a real red flag?
Post # 3
Can you give us an idea of what makes him a flake? Is he completely unresponsive and hard to get in touch with or is there something more to this (as in, has he flaked on events before?) I would feel anxious too if he’s not responding and confirming things. Perhaps you can follow up by phone and get it straightened out. If he doesn’t return your call in a timely manner then yes, I would start looking for another violinist. Good luck!
Post # 4
I hope that doesn’t make me sound totally unreasonable, but this is your wedding day and you shouldn’t have to run around the day-of worrying whether or not your violinist is going to show up. I vote to fire him and find someone more responsive (I, unfortunately, had to do this with my original invitation vendor and was SO happy I did). It just isn’t worth the headache!
Post # 5
Yes, he basically doesn’t call me back or email me back for weeks at a time and I have to make several attempts to reach him. He’s missed the only two appointments we’ve set up without calling or letting me know we were no longer meeting to discuss. My main concern is that although I met him at a bridal show in San Diego, he’s actually based out of TX, so none of my vendors are familiar with him.
Other than his complete lack of follow up, he appears to be very professional, but I don’t know that I should just ‘trust’ that he shows up the day of my wedding. I realize I shouldn’t have any hesitation at all in finding a new violinist, I just really liked his style and was trying to make it work 🙁
Post # 6
Oh no! I can’t believe he missed the appointments! I’d say that if he isn’t responsible enough to make scheduled appointments and return your phone calls/messages, then I wouldn’t trust him to show up and get things right the day of. You could give him the benefit of the doubt but who really wants to do that on their wedding day!?
I would probably just contact him and say, sorry but I’ve tried to get in contact with you on numerous occasions, you didn’t even attend the 2 meetings we were supposed to have. I’m really busy with wedding planning etc and would just feel more comfortable hiring someone I can rely on (perhaps not as blunt but somethign to that effect). I found my string quartet on a really great website–I’m sure they have violinists too. PM me if you’d like the link. Good luck!
Post # 7
Thank you ladies…I sent him an email and asked to cancel the contract and have my deposit refunded. I just can’t even imagine being that unprofessional in an industry that is so emotional charged and vulnerable. Thanks for the feedback.
Post # 8
Absolutely fire him. If you know he’s a flake during the planning, that is a clear indicator of what he will be like on the wedding day. Find someone else asap who is much more reliable and responsible.
Post # 9
Violinists are kind of a dime a dozen. I mean, if they are a skilled player, you won’t be able to hear the difference between a flaky violinist and a responsible one. Canon in D sounds the same no matter who is playing it!
Post # 10
I’d fire him.. it’s better to just work with someone your vendors know, unless you trust the person completely. Especially someone out of town. If he’s this way now, you don’t want to deal with that on top of everything else on your wedding day!