(Closed) My violinist is a flake. Do I fire him?

posted 10 years ago in Music
Post # 3
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can you give us an idea of what makes him a flake? Is he completely unresponsive and hard to get in touch with or is there something more to this (as in, has he flaked on events before?) I would feel anxious too if he’s not responding and confirming things. Perhaps you can follow up by phone and get it straightened out. If he doesn’t return your call in a timely manner then yes, I would start looking for another violinist. Good luck!

Post # 4
1675 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


I hope that doesn’t make me sound totally unreasonable, but this is your wedding day and you shouldn’t have to run around the day-of worrying whether or not your violinist is going to show up. I vote to fire him and find someone more responsive (I, unfortunately, had to do this with my original invitation vendor and was SO happy I did). It just isn’t worth the headache!

Post # 6
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh no! I can’t believe he missed the appointments! I’d say that if he isn’t responsible enough to make scheduled appointments and return your phone calls/messages, then I wouldn’t trust him to show up and get things right the day of. You could give him the benefit of the doubt but who really wants to do that on their wedding day!?

I would probably just contact him and say, sorry but I’ve tried to get in contact with you on numerous occasions, you didn’t even attend the 2 meetings we were supposed to have. I’m really busy with wedding planning etc and would just feel more comfortable hiring someone I can rely on (perhaps not as blunt but somethign to that effect). I found my string quartet on a really great website–I’m sure they have violinists too. PM me if you’d like the link. Good luck!

Post # 8
4485 posts
Honey bee

Absolutely fire him. If you know he’s a flake during the planning, that is a clear indicator of what he will be like on the wedding day. Find someone else asap who is much more reliable and responsible.

Post # 9
1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Violinists are kind of a dime a dozen. I mean, if they are a skilled player, you won’t be able to hear the difference between a flaky violinist and a responsible one. Canon in D sounds the same no matter who is playing it!

Post # 10
3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’d fire him.. it’s better to just work with someone your vendors know, unless you trust the person completely. Especially someone out of town. If he’s this way now, you don’t want to deal with that on top of everything else on your wedding day!

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