Post # 1
Fiance and I have been considering writing our own vows. We’re still hammering out the details of the ceremony and haven’t decided 100% what we’re doing, but I started working on some ideas, in case we go that route.
I just feel like they’re lacking… something. I don’t know. I’d love outside opinions. Are these vows ok? How can I make them better? Are they long enough or do I need to add to them a bit? I’ve added a few notes in brackets.
Knowing you has enriched my life so much. I am a better person because of your love, and I am so lucky to be standing here today, as we commit our lives to each other.
Through the years, we have grown together, as individuals and as a couple, as lovers and as friends. We have shared so much laughter and also many tears – most of them mine! [hoping to get a laugh here, but maybe I should eliminate this?] At times, we have struggled but overcoming those struggles has only served to strengthen our bond.
On this day, I make these promises to you:
I will love you for who you are, and support you in becoming who you want to be.
I will respect you and I will compromise. I will be patient, trusting and faithful to you.
I promise to comfort you in times of sorrow, to laugh with you in times of joy, to be your strength in moments of weakness.
I will be a devoted partner and a loving mother to your children.
I will never stop loving you, all the days of our lives. [this sounds cheesy to me, but I’m at a loss for how else to phrase it]
Post # 3
They made me cry LOL but I’m a super emotional person anyway. That being the case, I loved your tears comment! I would laugh 🙂 I think they’re perfect!
Post # 4
I really like them! I am all for getting a quick laugh but I think the part about your tears will make people wonder why he makes you cry? I dunno, I wouldn’t laugh, I would be a bit unsettled. I love everything else though! The last comment is a big slice of cheese and I hope you keep it. It’s just sweet.
Post # 5
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I get what you’re saying, the tears thing could easily be taken the wrong way. It isn’t so much that he makes me cry. I’m just a pretty emotional person so I cry easily.
Post # 6
I didnt get the your tears part either :
but otherwise I think they are great and super sweet!
Post # 7
@iheartnerds: oh gotcha! That makes sense now. Do lots of guests know you’re an emotional person? I am not emotional AT ALL so I misinterpreted it, sorry. It is like another language to me haha.
Post # 8
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Haha, no, I’m glad you mentioned it because I honestly think a lot of people would interpret it the same way you did. I’m leaning towards taking that part out.
Anyone who knows me well knows I’m pretty emotional, but a lot of our more distant relatives and friends would be like “huh?”
Post # 9
Honestly, it sounds a bit generic right now. I thought the point of writing your own vows was to add something personal and I don’t see that here. It just seems like a bunch of copy and pasting from vows that have been done.
Somehting to add is something like “I promis to let you go wait in line when a new apple product comes out, and even buy it though it is overpriced.”
Something meaningful and specific about you as a couple or about him as an individual, I think those the reasons for writing your own.
And Def don’t say “most of them mine” I was like WHAT?! Either you’re depressed or he has no sence of humor, I still don’t know what you’re tryying to say, but I don’t think it’s funny.
Post # 10
“every day of our lives”? “every day of your life”? “every day of my life”?
Post # 11
@Atalanta: Harsh, but appreciated. I’ll keep working on them.
It’s probably also worth mentioning that my Fiance is NOT an emotional person at all, which is why most of the tears have been mine. I was trying to convey that we’ve been through rough times as well as good, but I guess it comes off as my Fiance upsets me a lot.
Post # 12
I know that some people are, but I am not a fan of “haha vows” where you promise to pick the lint from his belly button and so on and so forth. I love that you kept it simple and touching… I teared up a little. 🙂
Post # 13
I would take out the part about the tears as well, because I thought the same thing as ChubbyBunny. Other than that, I think they are fine. For the ending, maybe you could say “for the rest of our lives”?
Post # 14
I think they’re lovely. Kudos to you for getting started even if you aren’t sure you are doing your own vows! I’m totally dreading writing mine because I don’t know how I’m going to put into words how I feel about Fiance. Seems like so much pressure to say the perfect thing, but Fiance wants us to write our own, so guess I better get crackin…..
Post # 15
These are good and from the heart.