(Closed) my waiting story

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
57 posts
Worker bee

Omg I know exactly how you feel!  It takes everything in me not to say something about how I wish he wouldn’t have bought a video game, something for his car, etc. so that he could have put his money towards a ring instead.  Whats even more upsetting to me is that my boyfriend has a large savings account that he continuously adds to with no intention of putting any of that money towards a ring as far as I can tell….

Post # 4
3305 posts
Sugar bee

I somewhat understand- my SO has mentioned to me that his next big purchase will be a ring, since he already got all of his electronics and etc out of the way. But now that I think about it- I don’t know when this big purchase will be, hopefully sooner than later?
So right now instead of talking about purchases, he is talking about school and his claim from having his car broken into. The insurance company will be replacing all of his gadgets and he is looking very forward to that.

I did ask him though why he doesn’t speak about it and he tells me that he won’t speak about buying the ring to ME because he is buying it for me. So hopefully he is talking to other people about it.

Post # 5
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Been there, done that. NOT fun AT all. Ugh! You seem to be doing WAYYYYYYYY better than I have. I finally gave in to my emotions and started with the condescending commentary. It really blew me off when my bf (now Fi) already had a brand new BMW, yet wanted to buy/replace it with a newer one and had no f**kin’ brains to think engagement! He wanted to be married to me as he kept stating that even when I was not engagement minded. But he was just never ready to do it. He HAD all his ducks in a row, yet still quoted ‘financial problems’ as a setback. What, pray tell are those financial problems? Umm…. unable to replace said new BMW with another newer BMW. What is it with guys and video games? During the course of our relationship, he’s bought so MANY gadgets, it’s unbelievable! (Also annoying.) Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!

Post # 7
3305 posts
Sugar bee

oh amd WELCOME- I forgot to stay that in my first post. I completely understand- same hting going on in my world.

Post # 9
8145 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

my boyfriend had bought a house, that pretty much made me think, uh oh, not happening for a while, then we spent a lt of masonary for that house, refinished floors, bought appliances… all that time he had been saving little bits of money that i didnt know about. ๐Ÿ™‚ dont worry… it’s in his head


haha i ust saw your post! CONGRATS!!!

Post # 10
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@dashwoodgirl: Hahaha it’s the engagement excitement. Congratulations!

Did it happen in said trip?

Post # 11
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yay!! Congratulations! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
115 posts
Blushing bee


Congratulations! Do you have any advice for someone who is going on 4 years and is having the thoughts you mentioned here in this post?

Post # 14
64 posts
Worker bee

3.6 years and he wants to buy a $1000 pool table

Post # 16
229 posts
Helper bee

I just read your story and follow up posts ๐Ÿ™‚ Congratulations! And, a sincere thank you for the advice. I’ve spent a significant part of the last two months feeling so sad and frustrated. Finally, on Christmas night, I had a heart-to-heart with my parents, who were so supportive. Now I’m just gearing up to head back to the east coast and have that same talk with SO. 

Btw, are you Elinor or Marianne (or Margaret)? ๐Ÿ˜‰

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