Post # 1
Does anyone else ever feel like a giant dartboard? A giant dartboard that isn’t allowed the right to their own opinion, even if it’s not particularly controversial?
I feel that some people on this board don’t quite understand the fact that we are all allowed to have an opinion, and it doesn’t require agreement on anyone else’s part. I state mine often, without calling anyone else out on theirs, and I believe that in doing so I am not being inflammatory. However, quite a few people on here have felt the need to cause outright arguments for the fact that we don’t share the same opinion.
I’m not even talking about heavy stuff, folks. I’m not talking about politics, religion, etc… I live and let live… I don’t have to have everyone around me agree and I certainly don’t feel the need to argue them into seeing my opinion on the big things, much less the little ones. Differences of opinion happen. If I outright insult someone by name, okay, I could understand that. However, I DON’T do that. Yet, several girls on here feel that it’s alright to do it ME.
I’m a peaceful person and I value having a peaceful life. I like this website. I have enjoyed helping people with their weddings, offering inspiration, and taking inspiration from others. I’ve met some great people, and I respect almost everyone here, without even having met them in person. I understand that there are some overly sensitive people in the world that probably shouldn’t be on internet forums, because they will constantly find something that offends them. I’m not one of those sensitive people. But I AM quite sick and tired of attracting them. Now that my wedding is over, I come to WB to offer advice, keep up with the Bees that I’ve been following, and “chat” with my “friends”. I don’t come on WB to cause arguments, stir the pot, create problems, or because I enjoy having those things done to me.
I honestly don’t see the point of being here if the tiniest little comment I make will end up creating unncessary stress for myself. I just don’t live that way. I don’t understand why anyone else would want to, but to each their own. I just wish more people felt that way.
Post # 3
I think the important thing is to take everything with a grain of salt. Things can get misunderstood in writing versus in person. Also, if someone is being “snarky,” just ignore them. Everyone is entitled their own opinion and someone who wants to start a fight on an internet message board with you (or anyone else for that matter) really isn’t worth the time.
Post # 4
Agree with Mrs. Louboutin….and if you enjoy your time on WB, don’t let others drive you away or make you reluctant to post. It would be sad if you stopped posting because of fears of stepping on others’ toes/fears of getting flamed. 🙁 If you refuse to engage in an argument or respond to others’ unpleasantness, then they’ll have no way to continue.
Post # 5
Maybe with all the new engagements. people who are not used to the atmosphere here on WB… maybe it’s new people who are bothering you.
Also, it is your opinion and sometimes our opinons can be very opinionated not the norm… it may not be normal. But that’s why WB is so popular. We “should” respect people and their opinions and people should do the same to our opinons. I’ve notice that on WB, I say things that are against the norm but I try to put it gently, so I don’t offend anyone.
Sorry, you are feeling this way. I sometimes notice that I have to step back from WB because if I’m having a bad day, I tend to be a bit attitude-y. And my responses reflect that.
Sometimes I skip over ones that may be a bit controversial just so I don’t get all into it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Awww… I didn’t think she meant to attack you. It actually seemed like very civil discussion and disagreement to me, where you were both obviously on different sides. Personally, I feel comfortable discussing people’s (and my own!) opinions and I wouldn’t have felt attacked here, and I’m guessing that poster is the same as me in that way, but didn’t realize that you would have felt uncomfortable. I’m sorry you feel that way; I hope you can look past it and just take it for what it is (a stranger out in space who disagrees with you) rather than taking it personally. 🙁
Post # 7
Oh no! What happened? You are one of my favorite bees… =(
Post # 8
i find some days im in a snarky mood so i post abruptly and to the point and people react accordingly
i also think we all suffer burnout occasionally and this happens on whatever forums you are on (ie i had a 3mth break from being a moderatator on a scuba forum because i could. not. stand. to. read. one. more. question. about. split fins v paddle fins!)
sending hugs because we all have a down day ((hugs))
Post # 9
layla, don’t leave. I was just about to reply to that other post again, but decided it was just fanning the flames. There are a lot of conservative people on here, which is one thing for weddings and traditions, but quite another on more hot-button topics. I think you’ll find people that are more moderate just don’t care to get into it, so you may feel alone with your opinions. Example – I stay away from the religious questions because I have nothing positive to offer their chats.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Yeah, that thread is starting to take an ugly, judgmental turn. Or at least an angry one.
Post # 11
What other post? Please don’t leave! I’m sorry you’re feeling this way!
Post # 12
I’m a little lost… but don’t go! I’ve been called out a time or two but I just let it roll off my back. I don’t have a “I have to be friends with everyone” mentality so if someone seems to be snitty to me and I’m not feeling it, I just ignore them. Whoever pissed you off, I’m sure the majority of people here still keep the good vibe around here going 🙂
Post # 13
Aw, I am sorry to hear you’re feeling like a dartboard (nice metaphor though, very piquant). I have felt like that before too on Weddingbee (although not lately, lest anyone worry). Maybe you would feel better if you took some time for yourself away from Weddingbee? Usually a little breathing room helps me to feel better if I am feeling upset. I am not trying to tell you whether your feelings are right or wrong—I don’t really believe feelings have right-ness or wrong-ness, they just are—but you are feeling them, and so the next step is to see what you can do to improve them.
Regardless, know that you are a very valued part of the hive and I hope you stay.
Post # 14
This makes me sad. When I first joined WB a few months ago, you were one of the people constantly posting, so I tend to read whatever you post. That other post was getting ugly, and I don’t think one strongly opinionated person should drive you away. I’ve been called out a few times because there are some things I have strong opinions about, but I try not to even respond. I’ll be sad to see you go.
Post # 15
Oh honey….some people on here just like to rain a little….just keep your umbrella up at all times. I basically got called a cry baby bridezilla today because I cried and was upset about not getting my shoes after being told they were there and driving and hour and a half to get them. I to feel like you cant give your opinion or say how you feel without someone breathing or should I say typing down your neck ( http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-horrible-good-shoe-shopping-day-at-nordstrom )
I like having you here.
Don’t go. Stand up for yourself.
Post # 16
I’m so sorry you feel like you are a target. Sometimes people say things that sort of bug me but I try to let it roll off my back and not think about it. If they are purposely targeting everything that you say, maybe you should bring it up with Mr. Bee because no one should be singled out for the comments that they make. I really hope you don’t feel singled out and stay here! I love your opinions!