(Closed) My Wedding Date and Complainers

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I would just say that you understand it’s inconvenient for some people and you understand if they can’t make it, but this day means a lot to you and your fiance and you are both very excited about it.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Tell them you hope you’ll see them there. Then change the subject.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh I got a lot of flack too b/c of doing it over Labor Day weekend. I finally just said…”well that’s the day it’s going to be and if people really want to be there, they will figure it out” My mom finally shut up about it and realized that i was right.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Are a lot of people travelling? I chose an inconvenient location, and so I get comments. I think the best response is to acknowledge that it may be inconvenient, state your reason, then just smile. Don’t apologize but don’t get defensive. It is what it is. But take the comments in stride, everyone gets them.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wouldn’t go with the “not important enough” approach. That is a tough time to travel, especially if you are leaving behind what you would normally do for Thanksgiving. You didn’t say you have had complaints from friends, but I know I would not be able to attend a Thanksgiving weekend wedding of a friend.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Weddings around holidays are always tough because some people go out of town but on the plus side, some people can take off work because of it & make it to your wedding. There’s also crazy “black friday” traffic that day, so be preparred to leave super early just in case!

No day is going to be perfect for everyone. There will always be someone who has to work, or gets sick, or is out of town, etc. I would just say you really hope they can make it and that you’re really excited, like what spaniel said.

One of my best friends had her wedding on labor day weekend, but that’s the only day I couldn’t make it cause I had plans a year in advance. Its the only weekend out of the entire year I couldn’t go. I felt so sad that I didn’t go thou. However, it worked great for her cause lots of her family that normally couldn’t make it, could because of the holiday. & I made up for it with a really good homemade gift of what she always had wanted.

Do what you want, not what will most convenience someone else. Its your life & if they can make it, they’ll come. Just be understanding of people who can’t make it due to being with family, etc.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

& I wouldn’t say the “if its not important enough” part. My friend’s wedding was VERY VERY important to me, but I couldn’t make it. I know people who wouldn’t make it to my wedding if it was around Thanksgiving or Christmas because they just can’t & will be with family. So just thought I’d chime in with monitajb.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m getting married Labor Day weekend, so I can understand your situation. I would say something like: “I think it is a wonderful tribute to my Grandmother who would have loved to be with us on this special day. We will miss the people who can’t be there, and we are looking forward to celebrating with those who will.”

Oh, and one of my good friends was married the day after Thanksgiving. She had a huge turnout of people, myself included, and we had a blast. You will too! Ignore the negative people who are trying to bring you down!

 

 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I went to a wedding on that day about two years ago (plan for traffic…).  It was fine, and if anyone was ‘missing’ I sure didn’t notice.  My only ‘issue’ was that I couldn’t get off and had to attend after working a full day.  Hardly a big deal.  (most of the world is already off) I always thought it would be a great day to get married!!  Uniting in marriage, classic family holiday….. and GM b day, very special!  Some people may be in town that otherwise would not be.   I am set for June, outside, and my fiances neice (22 yrs old) said “OOOO that’s going to be HOT”  I very calmly told her “well, bring your bathing suit and we’ll run you through a hose!”  I say don’t worry about being bride-zilla.  They are being rude, and they know it!! Rude begets rude!   If you wanted their opinion you would have asked for it, it would have been unmistakable and sounded like “hey, what do you think about that???”.  When they say ‘why THAT day??’  you could say  ‘Why are you wearing THAT shirt?’  They’ll get the picture.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That’s my FH’s B-DAY!!!

Don’t worry about what people say. People will always have something to say, and most of the time they are saying it because they are just talking. Plus, who cares what they think, they aren’t paying for it.

 I am getting married on a holiday and a few people think that it is crazy. I don’t say anything when they say something negative I just say “Oh”, and leave them standing there. lol

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Everyone always has something to say about the day of your wedding…I would just say “I understand if some people won’t be able to make it but we’ve decided on this date”  and smile and continue on with your life…We got a lot of flack for having our wedding on labor day week-end last year which also happend to be one of my family reunion week-ends…people were upset, complained, did everything, but in the end, the people that came, came and the people that didn’t, didn’t.  I personally didn’t lose any sleep…

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