- 9 years ago
I posted about this issue before, but due to recent developments I feel I have to ask for your advice again on this issue. Here’s the thing: my brother is getting married in 2 months. I have a wedding date for 3.5 months after his wedding date. I have NO problem with my brother knowing about my wedding date, and I know he would be happy for me. However, it has been my parents advice to hold off on announcing the date because my Future Sister-In-Law tends to have a competitive streak and if she finds out about our venue she will be sure to upgrade her wedding plans–which in turn will affect my parents financially as they are paying for a good portion of my brother’s wedding. My parents’ advice is not based on speculation–since there have been other times where my Future Sister-In-Law found out something about me and voila she suddently had the same thing or similar. It’s odd and annoying–but she does it.
So, I have kept my wedding date a secret and planned to announce it either a few weeks before my brother’s wedding or shortly afterwards. Well, just today my brother was mentioning that they are planning a vacation–and it happens to be right when my wedding is! I really wanted to just come out and tell him everything because I worry he and Future Sister-In-Law will book a vacation now for that time period–and then when I do tell them the wedding date in a few months, they will be really disappointed, or maybe not even able to come??
I don’t know what to do because if I do tell them, I just know it will end up costing my parents money somehow because Future Sister-In-Law WILL find a way to compete. Again, this is not speculation–it has happened before. And I really don’t want to put my parents through that–and trust me they will do anything to make my brother happy (and he wants to make Future Sister-In-Law happy).
So what to do? Should I just wait and tell them after their wedding and risk the possibility of them having to give up their vacation for my wedding, or maybe not even coming?? Or should I go ahead and tell them everything now?