(Closed) My wedding day is in 6 days and he's just cancelled it!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is not a good way to go into a marriage….

My God I feel pity for you hon 🙁

Post # 63
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

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I agree with Miss Apricot.  This is something that you both need time, and preferably counseling, to process.  If his issues came out in such a dramatic and ultimately violent fashion as this, then you must tend to them before the wedding.

It’s awful and a bummer, but take a few minutes, breathe, reflect, and decide if you’re really comfortable moving forward at this point.  If the answer is anything other than an honest & emphatic yes, then postpone.

I’m sorry that you’re in such a lousy situation.  Best of luck.

Post # 64
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with Miss Apricot! Do not walk down the aisle with this man in a week. You two are NOT ready for marriage at this point and need to seek counseling. This is not the way to start out a marriage and it will go downhill soon after the wedding if you go through with it without counseling.

Don’t get married because you are worried about what people may think. Don’t get married to just get through it. He majorly disrespected you and a simply I’m sorry does not cut it. He will continue to do this and you will be miserable married.

Anyone I know that married with serious doubts in their mind was divorced within 2 years.


Post # 65
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am so sorry to hear you’ve been going through this. I am sure in the long run things will turn out for the better and you will feel happy again. Time is a great healer, as well as having friends and family around you.

Post # 66
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I really hope you do not walk down that aisle tomorrow.  There is something really wrong here… This is supposed to be a happy time not a time for him to just walk out….. Im affriad if you go ahead with this wedding you will end up unhappy and divorced in the long run.  Dont waste time, get out now…..

Im so sorry this is happening now, this is not fair to you and should have been delt with months ago, but dont get married b/c you feel you have no other option

There have been a few other Bees who have posted about getting or filing for divorce only a few months after there wedding.  Because one of them had doubts and never manned up before the I Dos…. Save yourself the future heartache and end it now

Post # 67
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Future Mrs K:  I agree, I’m sure we all feel it but just dont wat to say it as its a tough time for Dotty2012, but you cannot enter a marriage expecting the declaration to solve your problems. You have problems in your relationship hun, you MUST resolve them BEFORE you go up that aisle. If you don’t you almost certainly will be getting a divorce soon. Don’t think of the money spent. You’re worth more than that.

All I’ve seen you do is make excuses for him. Saying what you want to believe. But is that what you REALLY know for sure? making you confident enough to commit to THAT man, the one who insulted and humiliated you and who’s always like that when he drinks? If you are, I feel very sorry for you.


Hugs x

Post # 68
4430 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Please do not rush and get married to this man.  It takes more than a few days to fix his emotional issues. 


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@Ms CH:  I couldn’t agree more.  I really think she is making a mistake! I hope other people can help tell her this too!

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