My wedding day make up was terrible

posted 1 week ago in Beauty
Post # 3
6771 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Steph2 :  How do they look with your eyes open? 

Overall, you look beautiful! I’m sure you’ll find many photos you are happy with. Have a conversation with your photographer about what you can and can’t address with editing. 


Post # 4
819 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Ok, so yes the eyeshadow is unblended, but also consider:

– The photo you posted is a super zoomed-in crop that likely doesn’t represent what most of your photos look like.

– Your eyes are closed in this photo, which again probably doesn’t represent most of your photos.

– Many people don’t think about makeup much and won’t be scrutinizing your eyeshadow. And I would guess that most people won’t be able to see the blending in the majority of photos even if they tried.

– Your liner, lashes, and brows all look great, even in the zoom-in. 

So while I totally understand your disappointment that your look isn’t what you wanted and expected from your trial, hopefully you can find comfort in knowing that you still look beautiful, and there are likely many photos that look fantastic. Lashes and liner are what make the biggest difference to eyes in photos, IMO.

And if it makes you feel better, you could inquire with your photographer if a blend or blur tool could be used on your eyelids in photos where your eyes are closed. Would probably be too obvious in super close up shots, but maybe it could work in the zoomed out version of the photo you posted above, for example. 

Post # 5
5720 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I can’t imagine there are many pictures with your eyes closed so I’m sure it looks fine in 99% of photos and just a bit off in this one. 

Post # 6
922 posts
Busy bee

Your eyelashes look so nice…and I think your lips look pretty. 

Post # 8
358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think overall you look great! Yes, I can see where she could have blended the eyeshadow a bit more, but with your eyes open it’s probably not all that noticeable. I think the rest of your makeup looks really nice. The lips don’t bother me either- if it makes you feel any better, I did my own wedding makeup and forgot to touch up my lipstick before the ceremony, so most of my pics don’t have lipstick either!

Post # 10
9734 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think you look gorgeous! And I see the issue with the eye shadow but 99% of your pictures won’t be a close up with your eyes closed so it won’t even be noticeable. And I think your lips look just fine. I actually had to take a second look at the picture to see you didn’t have lipstick on and I wouldn’t have even noticed if you hadn’t said anything. 

Post # 11
3794 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Steph2 :  Awe I’m sorry you’re not happy with your day-of makeup OP! I think you look really beautiful though! I see the shadow is not really blended but I think your natural lip color is pretty! What if you chose just a few for your photographer to touch up? Maybe pick a few for photo gifts or ones you’ll hang on the wall; that way you dont have to pay for all of them, but those little things wont bother you every time you look at the pics you put up?

Post # 12
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree with Charliejeorge! You lips look lovely naturally and even though the shadow isn’t blended I think it looks like beautiful colors! You have a super gorgeous face and I bet not zoomed in, no one would be able to tell that anything was unblended! Can we see some pics with your eyes open?

Post # 13
1214 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

I see what you’re talking about with the eyeshadow but overall you look GORGEOUS and everything looks very well done. I think we are our own worst critics when it comes to our wedding looks. Don’t sweat it!! 

Post # 14
1590 posts
Bumble bee

Eyeshadow needs blending yes, but otherwise it looks nice to me.

Post # 15
8450 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Steph2 :  

Oh dear OP, but really this has to be the most insignificant wedding day ‘problem’ l have ever seen. As pps have said, the issue is only visible in close up with eyes closed and probably not even then to an untrained observer. 

You are frankly  beautiful, and perhaps this has led you to be overly critical and even insecure about your looks – it’s not unusual oddly enough.

As an older woman, all l can usefully say to you is do not waste another moment on this. In years to come you will look back and think ” why the fuck did l worry about my looks, l looked great” . I speak from experience, and l never looked as good as you in the first place. 

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