(Closed) my wedding decor is having an identity crisis – help!

posted 13 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
287 posts
Helper bee

have you been over to Stylemepretty to see the inspiration boards over there?  I am sure there has got to be one that matches what you are looking for.

What about finding the gold and the lapis in paper and using those elements to tie everything together with programs, favor tags, escort cards, menus, etc…

Post # 4
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

What if you went more neutral with the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses (like a silver/platinum/grey color) and added in your purple with the flowers?  Then, even though you’re using less of the color, it will really pop against its neutral background?  Are you using a florist?  They could help you find flowers in the right shade for you.  Anemones are gorgeous!  You could do a newutral silver/platinum/grey tablecloth with ivory napkins, and have your paper stuff (menus? placecards? favor tags?) be in your purple.  And your cake!  I am picturing a creamy, ivory-colored frosted cake with deep purple accents.  Maybe you could look up Morrocan influences?  Would that be going in an entirely different direction?  I feel like this palette could be so rich and sensual.  Definitely look at Style Me Pretty and at Snippet and Ink for their inspiration boards. 

Post # 5
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I agree with you on the sunflowers looking too country-ish.  I would make most things deep purple and ivory with touches of the "Sunflower" yellow (i.e. make the runners yellow, and the centerpiece flowers deep purple in an ivory vase).


Post # 6
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I agree with the other posters about the sunflowers.

I think having purple Bridesmaid or Best Man gowns and having leaf green, purple and ivory everywhere else would be beautiful!

Here are some inspiration boards:

Source 1: Anne Ruthman from Weddingbee Pro

Source 2 & 3: whitneyandbrycewedding.wordpress.com

Source 4: weddinginspirationblog.blogspot.com

Source 5: forums.canadianbride.com

Source 6:www.projectwedding.com

Source 7: bemybridesmaid.files.wordpress.com

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Post # 7
34 posts

I really love the idea of your sunflower with the deep purple but YES most def agree the sunflower is the staple for country or rustic feel. STILL don’t give up on it yet. I think its a very casual flower BUT you can totally dress it up a bit with your antique gold somehow. PLUS its awesome that they don’t have matchy matchy table runners. To me thats a bit expected and I totally think you can make your own with some fun fabrics out there! Or if its too pricy to make all runners maybe just do your VIP tables or head table somehow??


I love the idea of some green accents or play with the shades of purple on your programs, flowers ect. But my advise is don’t fight the sunflower, maybe just have some here and there for accents of yellow but don’t go crazy with yellow all over and keep your gold and purple hues for the formality if that what your worried about losing.



Post # 8
27 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

 mrs leopard has a great style board!  and you can still go with the lapis bridesmaid dresses and use dark purple as accent colors rather than your dominant color if it’s hard to find matching decor to go with it.  to add some touches of purple, see if there are dark purple chair sashes available, use dark purple flowers, napkins or napkin rings, ribbon for the favors, decorations on cake, etc., but i feel you don’t have to have a lot of purple if you don’t want it.  you can incorporate some yellows (instead of antique gold) and leafy greens as well, and it will still look more summer like instead of fall.  

as far as sunflowers go, i went to google images, used the keywords, "elegant sunflower centerpiece," and found these images to help spark ideas of how you can incorporate sunflowers into your wedding without looking country chic:

  1. http://sheashells.home.att.net/tall-seashell-centerpieces.html

    1. although this is a seashell theme, you can pair up sunflowers with lavendar or purple statice and maybe some other flowers to make it look elegant.  i’m sure your florist may have some ideas.

  2. http://weddingbellesonline.com/2008/07/31/the-perfect-new-england-wedding/

    1. this wedding looks formal, and they still incorporated sunflowers in their decor.  

  3. http://www.flowerfiesta.com/1206928.html

    1. this page has several nice sunflower images.

hope this helps!


Post # 9
3 posts

My daughter is getting married in September and has also chosen Lapis for her bridesmaid dresses.  We’ve found that eggplant is a pretty close match for such things as ribbons, paper, etc.  Joanne’s Fabrics has a satin eggplant ribbon that matches almost perfectly.  My daughter is using Ivory table linens (her dress is Ivory), and we found some lovely eggplant fabric at Joanne’s that matches pretty close to the Lapis.  So, we’ve decided to make simple table runners using the eggplant fabrice over the Ivory tablecloths.  She’s also incorporated silver into some of the small items such as the tableware.  The bridesmaid flowers are going to be white/ivory with apple green for the ribbon around the stems.  My daughter’s bouquet will be different shades of dark purple and bright pink, which we’ll incorporate into the table arrangements.  Because the Lapis is so difficult to match, one thing we did was order a sample wedding invitation from David’s Bridal that has the Lapis ribbon.  We’ve been using the ribbon to coordinate the flowers and other accessories, as well as the card stock for our DIY menus, programs, etc.

Anyway, I understand your frustration.  Good luck and, if you have one close by, give Joanne’s a try.

Post # 10
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I really like everyone else’s ideas . . . I really favored the idea of mixing lapis, deep purple, gold and sunflower.  I have found that most things with sunflowers are country chic, but what if you incorporated them into your arrangements and worked with lapis, purple and gold elsewhere?

If you use your favorite flower, but lean with elegant decor elsewhere, who says that’s not what it’ll be?  Sunflowers might generally be perceived as being rustic, but if you stay away from the twine and other country-chic, decor, it won’t necessarily follow. 

I’d also look at stylemepretty, other blogs and google elegant weddings, ones that use sunflowers and other “rustic” flowers and just see how they come together.  And, if that’s what you want, go for it!

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