(Closed) My wedding inferiority complex just went up (you have to see these pics)

posted 7 years ago in Decor
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

While those weddings certainly are beautiful, I think yours will be equally beautiful in its own way. There are so many weddings I could compare ours too, we didn’t do a ton of details, and I could beat myself up all day with some of the amazing stuff I see, but in the end, it was our wedding, and it fit us. As long as you stay true to yourself and are happy with what you bring in, then I don’t think yours will look any less gorgeous than those others πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Don’t lose perspective here! This isn’t about wowing the guests, this is about celebrating your committment to each other. It wouldn’t matter if you had a $100 budget or a $100k budget. You are still doing that. That being said I totally understand where you are coming from. I have been getting a lot of those comments to. I planned many peoples weddings that were fab, unique, to die for. Can I do this? Yes! Can I do this on my budget? No! πŸ™  A lot of people seem to have the idea this will be the wedding of the century. Sorry to tell them I am having a fun/casual wedding in the park. I have to keep telling myself that their expectations are their problem not mine. My wedding will be great because the man I am marrying is great. So what if we don’t have a wedding that meets everyones unrealistic expectations!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I hear you! Alot of people think I must get the best deals or vendors will work for free because it will give them more business in the long run. I wish! It might happen if I was getting married in an area where I plan weddings but I live in an area where no one has money and a typical wedding budget is around $1000 total. So nope, not going to happen! Do I wish I had a bigger budget? Some days but I also want my dream house and don’t want a ton of debt! Besides the people who have the highest expectations know what they pay me. They should realize that I can’t have that kind of wedding if they are paying me so little. Not complaining. I wanted to job for my portfolio so I deliberately low bid. But lets get real people!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Jeannine @ Small Chic:

I was “WoWed” by the original photos of the venue that you posted.  I think the place is just sooo gorgeous on it’s own.  To me, these photos look “over the top” and cover up the simplistic beauty of what the venue already has. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh – that’s rough!! Those weddings look really beautiful. But – first of all – I’m sure not many of your guests are browsing wedding websites and won’t be comparing you wedding with others. Secondly – I’m sure there are things that you are doing that many guests will think are super neat or original and just don’t seem that special to you. People will love your wedding and so will you!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I actually looked at a lot of the venues in Charlottesville, including the vineyards/wineries (my Fiance lives in Richmond, I live in Blacksburg) and they were completely out of my range. But the nice thing about them is the natural beauty of the places. I agree with the PP. The wedding you posted is lovely, but IMO, it’s a little overdone. It’s a brand new place, why do you need draping everywhere? And to me, fancy lighting isn’t needed. I know there is just some beautiful natural lighting that comes in that place. It’s like their goal was to be on Style Me Pretty or some other site (which is okay).

Your wedding will be beautiful despite your budget. Don’t worry about what others have done. If you’re in love with some of the ideas, see if you can do them at a smaller scale.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Jeannine @ Small Chic: I dont think the venue needs any real work on your part to decorate I wouldnt be worried if i was you. It will be great!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Let’s be serious here. There is nothing special at all about the decor for the first wedding. Two flower arrangements, an aisle runner and some petals should not inspire fear into the hearts of any bride getting married at the venue in the future.

Yes, the second wedding is pretty. But all those elements could also easily have been DIY. We never know what people have access to. Maybe the bride’s parents own a garden center.

I think we all need to stop comparing weddings as if somehow that makes a difference in the marriage.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

honestly, it’s the venue that’s gorgeous… not all the other “stuff” that’s added on.  i think we often get wrapped up into the muchness of everything, and really more isn’t always better.  let the beautiful venue be the focus, not all the decor that’s added in.  if seeing these makes you twinge with jealousy, remind youself that you don’t need to spend a ton of cash to have a fabulous wedding day.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Jeannine @ Small Chic: it takes awhile but eventually you’ll get over the envy and find a clever way to pull it all off. If you don’t have the money but you have the eye, you’ll be able to do something that is super cool. Use what you have and what you can borrow vs. what you can rent. Living in L.A. has taught me how to be scrappy. Write down what your desired vision is and then try to think out of the box. Venue rental can be a real killer so try to think out of the box. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I mean… it’s pretty but I wouldn’t go all ‘wish it were mine’ over it.  Your wedding’s going to be gorgeous!! Don’t fret.

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