Post # 1
We extended an olive branch to Fiance parents and grandparents and they burnt it and danced on the ashes. My brother decided yesterday that he isn’t coming to the wedding and he is supposed to be bringing two family members with him who don’t drive, brothers Fiance is also my bridesmaid so not sure if she will still be coming now! My mum and dad are upset about whatever it is my brother has done (they wont tell me but he’s an a**hole so i can imagine) my dads a very calm person but he’s utterly fuming and said he never wants to speak to him again. My Fiance still hasn’t given out three invitations to guests so i’m going to have to hunt for their addresses they have a word of mouth invite and are friends so they know they just haven’t got the proper one with times and location. My hairdresser seems to be booked up for every day until the wedding and I’m having a hell of a job fitting in a trial with her. And i have 12 weeks to loose 17lbs which is doable but I put on last week because my dog was rushed to the vets with a life threatening immune disease which we have hopefully got under control but it was touch and go for a week. So pretty stressed and feeling really dam sorry for myself.
Post # 2
You are probably in the most stressful time of wedding planning. Breathe and tick everything of your list one at a time!
About the losing weight part I literally gave up! I was so stressed and trying to lose weight and watching everything I ate made it even worse. I let go and i still felt absilutely beautiful on my day.
All this to say it will all get better. Don’t let people get on your nerves. Take everything one dilemma at a time
Post # 3
I was in the same boat with weight gain. I fit into my dress when I bought it, then gained and decided it wasn’t worth a crash diet so I had my dress altered, luckily for free. As for the rest of the stress, you can’t control what other people decide to do. Remove yourself from those conversations and focus, one a time, at what you can do for that day. Simply reach out to your families and tell them it would really mean a lot to you and Fiance if they would put aside their differences and share in your special day. That’s all you can do. If they don’t come, they will probably regret it but you can’t control it.
Try doing some yoga, meditating, whatever helps you relax. I got a childs oversize coloring book and colored everyday leading up to the wedding. Work was very stressful leading up to the time I took off as well so this helped me a ton! Contact those friends ASAP and let them know pertinent information and get those cards in the mail. If they are good friends, they will understand that life gets crazy sometimes.
Taking walks are good, spending time with your dog, long hot bubble baths are a favorite of mine, and stepping away from wedding stuff a little bit too. Its easy to get bogged down with decisions and to do lists. Get something done each day you can, don’t feel bad about what isn’t done yet, and then unplug wedding from your mind. When I need to stop thinking about somethiing, I visualize myself in a large room with lots of shelves and boxes. I imagine writing what I’m thinking about on paper, fold it up and put it in a box. Then i magically float the box to the farthest shelf. It helps me put things out of my mind and feel at ease.
You will make it through this!!!!