Post # 1
For the past few months, my Fiance and I have been so busy and juggling so much, that we haven’t had the chance to focus on wedding planning – much less enjoy it. We moved 2 times (due to a pipe burst). Somebody hit my car (no fault of my own), so we’ve been going back and forth with insurance. I got a promotion at my job and took on more responsibilities. His side business has been really taking off. My grandmother unexpectedly passed away. Business trips. Weddings. All within 2 months time. I feel like there has been SO much happening that we haven’t had time to breathe. All we do is run from one place to the next, just praying that we’ll get there in time. And now the wedding is in 15 days and I’m PANICKING.
I’m normally very Type-A, and I’m not a fan of procrastination. But I feel like everything piled up on me. And I only have 15 days left!! Does anybody else feel this way? Is it normal to panic as the wedding date gets closer to being here?
Post # 2
Mine is still 4 months away and I’m starting to panic so I can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now….what do you still have left to do?
Take advantage of your type A personality and start systematically going through your to do list. Make decisions quickly and don’t second guess yourself once the decision is made. At the end of the day you’re getting married and it’ll be perfect. Good luck Bee!
Post # 3
Totally normal to feel overwhelmed and panicky 2 weeks out from your wedding. I was a wreck at that point lol…barely sleeping, no appetite, just amped up all the time and panicking about all the little things that had to be done. Just take a deep breath and make a list. What helped us was making a master list of all that needed to be done (everything from “finalize seating chart” to “pick up grandma from airport” to “write thank you notes and attach to bridal party gift bags,” and then organizing that list into a calendar. I designated one sheet of paper for each day in the probably 10 days leading up to the wedding, and wrote out the tasks that had to be completed on those days. Then check them off as you go…it’s very fulfilling.
Post # 4
Totally understandable you would feel overwhelmed! As a fellow Type – A individual, I encourage you to make a “to do” list and then organize to do tasks in a calendar. Also – your friends and bridesmaids are there for a reason (if you have a bridal party). Enlist their help and support, it can be a game changer 🙂 Take a deep breath, and remember that at the end of the day, as long as you get married to the one you love, it will all be ok. Good luck, I’m sure you’re wedding is going to be beautiful and I hope you get to enjoy it to the fullest!
Post # 5
bluecutie00 : Im very nervous myself, wedding is the 22nd. Im very shy soeaking in front of people or being center on attention.l Ive been telling myself, “wedding is booked, people are coming, no chaniging that now, so no point in stressing bc I HAVE TO DO IT”
Lets hope it works . Best of luck!!!
Post # 6
meanttobee2018 : I have the to-do-list made, and I put it all on the calendar. The list is not super long, but the issue is – as I cross off one thing, two more are added onto the list! I can’t get ahead!! As of right now, I still have to do this, which doesn’t seem like much. But I know, that ten more things will be added after I finish these.
1. Go dress shopping with my grandmother
2. Create memorial frame for recently passed grandmother, Finalize Pick a Seat Not a Side Sign, Finalize 6 Centerpieces.
3. Process all final vendor payments, and follow up.
4. Create a “shopping list” for things I need to bring on the honeymoon / choose all outfits and pack.
5. Update floral arrangments order, Follow up on cake order, and confirm hair appointment for the day of the wedding.
7. Attend Client’s Wedding – 10/7
8. Celebrate FI’s birthday a few days prior to wedding.
9. Clean house for visitors / prepare guest bedroom, organize master closet, mount TV on guest bedroom wall (essentially finish our move).
Post # 7
Numbers 2 and 5 seem like things your bridesmaids or family members could do, no? Could you and your fiance tackle Number 9 together for 30 minutes a night for the next week?
I found that close to my wedding a lot of people wanted to offer their help. It was work for me to make the detailed instructions (if needed) and delegate, but it was still so worth it to hand things off to people to get them done!
It’s normal to feel panicky, especially for us Type-A people, but if the list really does get too long, know that you can prioritize the most crucial things, and either delegate and let other things go, and really, it will still be lovely. Good luck!
Post # 8
bluecutie00 : you definitely have a lot on your plate. It may be worth the money, even if its outside your budget, at this point to hire a coordinator. a lot of the unexpected has happened, and you shouldn’t be this stressed out.
I just got married last week. didnt feel stress or panic until the processional music started. If you can’t hire a DOC, I strongly recommend you delegate what you can and trust those folks you ask to take care of it. I didn’t want to pay for a DOC because I thought I can handle. Fiance talked me into it for the sake of peace of mind, less stress, enjoy more. I’m so glad we did.
Post # 9
bluecutie00 : My Dad passed away two months before my wedding. I had to basically drop everything for 6 weeks to run his business. I also gained 10 pounds from all of the stress eating so my dress didn’t fit that great when I wore it. #boobcity
Two weeks out I had a “fuck it” attitude–the only thing that mattered is if I got married that day. Everything else fell into place. The rest is a bunch of details that no one will remember anyway.
Post # 10
Breathe Bee! As others have said, delegate, delegate, delegate. Failing that, buy a beautiful frame for the memorial, hire a handy guy to mount the T.V. ( or ask Fiance ) to do it. Ask Fiance to submit final payments as well… hire a cleaning service to take care of the house and forget about organizing the master closet until after the wedding.
For everything else that comes in, delegate or take care of in order of importance.
Number one on your list should be getting enough rest so you’re not burnt out for your wedding day. Take care of YOU first so you can enjoy the big day 😊
Post # 11
mrsptobe2017 : So, I’m having a super small wedding (only 30 people), which I thought would make DIY planning a breeze. But the caveat is I have no help! My only bridesmaid is my 17 year old sister and she couldn’t be more disinterested in the planning process. And my mother would love to help, but she’s also behind with her long list of to-dos. My fiance has been absolutely amazing though – he pretty much unpacked our entire house, hung pictures…he even ironed all of the tablecloths and chair sashes for the wedding. Anything I ask him to help with, he has. But he’s also been busy with his business, so we’re both just behind. 🙁
FrenchToastnCoffee : Oh yes – I broke down and got a DOC. Two of them in fact. That’s my only comfort. There may be 2 more weeks of intense stress, but on the day of the wedding, I’m turning my phone off and I’m going to be as cool and calm as a cucumber (or pretend to be, at least).
Post # 12
anthonyswife : Thank you so much for sharing your story. Yes, after the passing of my grandmother right before the wedding, I must admit that I’ve been pretty down. She neever even got the oppotunity to meet my fiance, and she died 1 month before the wedding. So, I’ve just been a tough spot emotionally tbh. And on top of that, my fiance’s family is always full of drama. I’m still trying to keep my sh*t together, but I’ve given up on workouts, I sleep 3 hours a night…there’s only so much I can do between Work, Side Business, Wedding. I’m pooped. It’s made the experience a little sour, but you’re right – as long as we get married on that day, I’ll be happy. Plus, going through all of this has shown me I have the most patient, loving, supportive partner by my side.
Post # 13
meanttobee2018 : Thank you so much for that! I’m going to take care of me!! I think I’m going to book a small spa day for myself and Fiance – we really need it. I’m going to try to finish as much on the to-do-list as I can by the end of this week, and then I think I’ll honestly hire out the rest. Normally, I like to do things myself and I’m cheap, but it’s not worth having a heart attack over. And I feel like we should just relax the week of the wedding. No work at the T-7 days mark. Only relaxing. Thanks. xoxo
Post # 14
It is natural to be “excited” or panicked.
REemmeber you are not alone; you are marry your partner and that is more important than your three tiered wedding cake or matching ribbon on the pews.
Consider using help including a wedding planenr no matter how organized you are.
Delegate and let it go – don’t worry if the floralbouquet had pearl accents andnot crystal or that the hubby’s tux had a notch lapel and not a peaked or grograin lapels and you wanted satin.
Look at getting some professional help ie someone to clean. Have some “me” time to go to the gym, ,spa and relax in the bath.
Try not to take it all on yourself.