Post # 1

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Wannabee
I’m getting married in 22 days and my sister got engaged today. I can’t find it in me to be happy for her. I just know my wedding is now her engagment party. I hate that i can’t have anything to myself but i can’t do anything about it cause i’ll be the bad one. Am I?
Post # 3

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Bumble bee
I would be upset too :(I don’t think you can not say much because people will just see it as selfishness.
Post # 4

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Honey Beekeeper
And this is a big deal because…..?
No your wedding will not be her engagement party… cause it’ll be your wedding and people will be there for a wedding, not an engagement party.
Post # 6

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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
You’re kidding right? Of course you’re not the bad one. Expecting your sister to put her life on hold because of your wedding is totally reasonable. The audacity of some people to think its okay to move forward in life a month before your wedding.
Post # 7

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Busy bee
- Wedding: July 2016 - Long Island, NY
I’d be so excited!!!! Your wedding isn’t going to be her engagement party… it’s going to be your wedding… and I just don’t understand why everyone feels like they get an entire month or season to celebrate their ONE DAY occasion and everyone else is supposed to put their life on hold.
There are 3 weeks between her news and your day. You’re being very selfish.
Post # 8

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Helper bee
You get one day. You’ll be rhe one in the big white dress, everyone will know the damn day is about you, get over yourself.
Post # 9

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Buzzing Beekeeper
happy people are happy for other happy people. Come on, be the bigger person. Your wedding is still your wedding
Post # 10

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Helper bee
Shake it off. How is your wedding her engagement party? It’s not. Don’t worry. The twenty-second day after you get engaged is not a special day just for you. Your wedding is. There’s nothing to do here besides let it go. There’s not a limited amount of happiness and joy in the world- you can be happy for yourself and for your sister. Nothing has changed about your wedding day.
Post # 11

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Bumble Beekeeper
Could you explain please how your sister’s engagement detracts in any way from your wedding?
Post # 12

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Busy bee
Your wedding is in 22 days, it’s not today. She didn’t get up to make a toast and her boyfriend stopped your wedding to propose to her. You don’t own the week or the month of your wedding. Your wedding will not be her engagement party. Is she creating the guest list? Is she picking the menu? The songs? The photographer knows who the bride and groom are, right? Is she going to be wearing a bridal gown?
It’s a wedding for you and your groom, no one is going to be suddenly confused over this. She’ll have her own party, just because people might congratulate her or be happy for her doesn’t take away from your day. Stop being so jealous of your sister and be happy for her. Let other people be happy for both of you.
Post # 14

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Busy bee
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
Please be happy for her. Your wedding has nothing to do with her relationship and her future with her husband. BE HAPPY FOR HER! As I’m sure she is happy for you and your wedding. It will not detract from your wedding…trust us. It will not be “her engagement party”, people are not going to be bringing her presents. Yes she may get an occassional congrats but you should be happy for her and show her that you are a great sister. Your post makes you seem really young, spiteful and jealous. Be mature and be happy for her.
Also, this is on the internet in a public forum, if your user name is your real name, you might want to consider changing it.
Post # 15

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Buzzing bee
Are you Ron Burgandy? Because otherwise I can’t understand why this would be a problem.
