Post # 46
@op, come on now, it’s not a big deal. Really!! Your wedding is going to be great, YOU will be the center of attention that day, not her, so take a deep breath and tell yourself you are being ridiculous and this does not matter. This is your sister, you should be so happy for her!
Post # 47
Just don’t think about it. I know it seems like a big deal now, for some reason, but once your wedding day rolls around you will stop giving a fuck. Negative feelings about crap like this are such a waste… you will probably regret letting this get to you.
Post # 49
You should probably have a double wedding.
Post # 50
Is this an April Fool’s joke? Because otherwise…
Post # 51
I know that you’re getting some harsh responses in this thread, but if FI’s sister was currently in a committed relationship and got engaged this May (a month before our wedding), I would lose my shit and there would be 0% of me that was happy for her. That’s mainly because we have some horrible issues with FI’s family though. Future Sister-In-Law is always the favorite above her brother and YES, people would treat our wedding like her engagement party. It would completely be “Ohhh! Show me your ring!!” and “You’re next! I can’t wait!!” not “Let’s go talk to the bride and groom who’ve been planning this special day for two years amidst horrible family drama!” I have zero doubts about that. If you and your sister have a good relationship though, I would try to brush it off. Even better, get together with your mom/a friend and throw her a small engagement party this weekend!! Get the attention out of the way if it worries you.
Post # 53
This is a non issue. Get over it and be happy for your sister. You get one day, not one month.
Post # 54
oh no op your sister just got engaged 22 days before your big day. shame on her now she is going to ruin your entire wedding. Why couldn’t she just wait until after your wedding was over to get engaged. oh poor you.
Seriously op. It really isn’t a big deal. A wedding is one day of the rest of your life. You need to look at the bigger picture. You are getting married to the love of your life. Not everyone is fortunante enough to be doing that. I’m 100 percent certain that everyone at your wedding will be focusing on you and your husband and not your sister and her fiance. So let it go and be happy for your sister. Enjoy your wedding while you still can because once it is over, it is truly over. Don’t let your jealousy cloud your judgement you will resent it later on.
Post # 55
Girlfriend, you know you can’t write things like this and not get yourself ripped a new asshole
I will say that I get it, your sister got engaged and in three weeks all of your family, from near and far, will actually all be in one place (for your wedding) and I guaranteeeee that the majority of them, during your wedding, are going to be asking to see her ring and “oohing” and “aaahing” at it, asking if there is a date picked, venue, etc. And I would be annoyed at that too. 99% of the Bee’s telling you that “it’s not her engagement party, get over yourself” “it’s your wedding, they won’t care” “you don’t get a month” in regards to your wedding, yadda yadda yadda…I get it, it’s not that you’re expecting it to be your week, month, year, whatever. It’s that a portion of your day, which IS supposed to be all about you (you can get a freaking DAY) is going to be about her, because again, family from near and far are going to be there. Dude, I get it, it sounds bitchy, but I get it. On the other hand, your sister didn’t know or plan when she was going to get engaged-that’s kinda his bad. My friend got married and sister’s boyfriend proposed the next weekend. Which, I “get” again , don’t you DARE think it’s your time to shine, be special and enjoy being the center of attention with your family for more than 9 hours! He at least waited to not propose at the wedding…imagine? But when it’s family, let that person have the spotlight for a bit, damn. I’m not saying rearrange your life because someone is getting married, but shit, ya know that person was getting married on this date for over a year at least, don’t do it right before or after. Let them be able to bask in the “just about to have my wedding” or “just got married” bliss.
And if this is an April Fools, don’t care, still feel the same way.
Post # 56
Be happy for your sister. This is small potatoes in the grand scheme of life. Your wedding day is going to be about you and your soon to be husband. Who gives a flying crap if family members congratulate her and look at her ring. This is definitely bridezilla-ish. Are you happy to be getting married? Is your sister happy? Sounds like more of a reason to celebrate.
Post # 57
That’s like saying “My sister is pregnant & showing; now my wedding will be her baby shower”
Be happy for your sister & celebrate in her joy; I’m sure she did that for you. Focus on your wedding day & the marriage ahead, not if she’ll steal your show. get real
Post # 58
my sister got engaged two weeks before my wedding and I was thrilled for her. She wasn’t going to tell any of the extended family until after becuase she wanted the wedding to be “My” day… but I was so excited for her, I wanted her to tell everyone. It’s your wedding – her being engaged isn’t going to make the day less about you. You should be happy for her and realize that the day is still going to be about you. It’s ok for you both to be engaged at the same time.
Post # 59
My goodness what a tragedy – your overwhelming narcissism, that is. Get a damn grip and be happy for your sister.
Post # 60
I think a few Bees are being unnecessarily harsh. I can totally see that you would be worried about this, however, my cousin got engaged the month before my wedding and it was totally fine. Nothing distracts from the bride on her wedding day, I promise.