(Closed) My wedding is making me crazy.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Oh yeah. I feel like this all the time. Ours is not a DIY wedding, but I am doing the bulk of the planning/calling/keeping track of details. And I feel a lot of pressure to get stuff done and live up to expectations. I also know that if anything’s amiss with the wedding, the bride is the one who gets blamed. Even though this bride wanted a ceremony of immediate family only and it was the groom and his side that insisted on the ginormous event. I’m less than a month away from my wedding and wish I had a dollar for everytime someone attached with my wedding said “You should,” “You need,” “You really ought…” Ugggggghhhh! Of course I feel like I’m losing my grip!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

ABSOLUTELY! You are completely not alone! Sometimes I feel great and secure and really excited and then come the times I want to crawl under a rock.
Don’t worry, sweetheart. It’s going to be okay (((HUGS)))

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I feel the same way!  For me it helps to get out and do something non wedding related for a little while so that I can calm down for a bit. And this is one of the reasons I love WB, so many people that can relate to you!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You’re definitely not alone!  I’m normally a very laid back kind of person but the whole wedding planning is driving me up the wall, seriously.  There’s so much pressure to do things perfectly,  I think what you’re going through is normal for a bride-to-be.  Like you, I can’t wait for the whole wedding to be over with.  I feel bad for saying that but the whole wedding planning has been so stressful for me.  Maybe I’ll chill out in a month or so.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

ditto in it being stressful and I cant wait till its over.. However I am keeping my sanity.. a little.. but other days not so much! I just try not to talk to many ppl those days lol.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think that wedding planning in general just brings out emotions that like when you’re sitting there crying over cardstock you know in your head it is unreasonable, but it just feels so right! lol

Just remember to breathe. In the end, I think we get all emotional because we just want the day to go smoothly and it is hard to imagine all of the little DIY things coming together in the end and we of course want our guests to have a fantastic time… so you are definitely not crazy for stressing!

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so glad I read this post because I feel exactly the same way.  And I’ve been feeling like a ‘bad bride’ for not being as excited as people seem to expect me to be.  Trust me, I’m excited…for it to be done with!  There’s a number of other factors contributing to how I feel (major family drama) but honestly, sometimes I wish we would have just decided to keep it small and simple.  The way I see it, the wedding is a day, the marriage is a lifetime and what more attention should be paid to…but I say this now as I’m knee deep in it all!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

oh, you are DEFINATELY not alone on this.  My wedding is not a DIY wedding, but planning all the details are giving me a total headache.  Ive taken some time off from the planning lately, but i really should get back to it. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Absolutely! Judging by the replies above, similar posts I’ve read on the topic, and my own person experience, WE ALL FEEL YOUR PAIN SISTER! Unfortunately it seems to be part of the wedding planning process. Just try to put things in perspective, and remember that the little things you are doing are just minor details of a big EXPERIENCE that you will remember the rest of your life. The most important part of the process is getting married. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and remember that, so you don’t lose your mind in the planning insanity 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes! I have exactly 2 months left till the wedding and I cant seem to sleep or think straight! I’m doing and TON of DIY projects and I’m planning my wedding from two hours away from the ceremony and reception sites. My mom lives there ad shes doing the best she can and my Fiance family who also lives there (Who dont even want to help). So I’m pretty much going solo with the DIY projects and every. single. little. friggin. DETAIL! And dont even get my started on how much my Fiance helps. He just wants to help pick out the food and music. The other night he tried doing a DIY project with me and we found out he sucks at being crafty…..

…Did this post make me sound mean????? Maybe thats my CRAZY side!

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Yes!  The worst part about it is that Fiance thinks I’m wedding planning obsessed.  When you only have 6 months to plan a DIY wedding, you have to be a little obsessive to get everything done in time.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I felt like this at the beginning of my planning – you just have to keep telling yourself that the details don’t matter. DIY projects can be fun, but if you’re not enjoying doing them, don’t. Most guests won’t notice decor, centerpieces, etc – they’re much more concerned about music and food. My stress level definitely went down after I started only spending time on elements of the wedding I actually enjoy planning.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Totally stressed here…I’m so ready for it to be here and then go on the honeymoon. I never thought I’d acutally NOT like the planning, but I really don’t. It’s stressful, exhausting…I hate the fact that I’m ALWAYS thinking of the wedding and planning. I hope these last five weeks go VERY fast..otherwise it’s going to be a long five weeks. LOL   Hope all of you can unwind a bit-I’m trying!

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