Post # 17
I actually got married on a Tuesday on Valentine’s Day this past year. In my culture a lot of people have weekday weddings, so it wasn’t so out of the norm, but it was still a challenge for some people to come. However, our wedding events started at around 5:30 and the ceremony was at 6:30 so most people were able to make it after work, at least for the reception which started at 8 something. If i was a guest at your wedding I would be able to attend the reception, probably a little bit late since 4 or 5 is a bit early, but the ceremony would be a no-go since it’s mid-day in a workday.
Post # 18
@HUstrawberry: Are most of your guests traditional, white collar workers? If so, then yes, you are asking too much. But if your guests are nurses, work retail, have jobs that aren’t 9-5, it could be okay.
Honestly, there are very few people I would take off a day of work to see get married. Assuming you were in town and the wedding was local, we would try to go to reception. Unless you were a bff, there is no way I would take the whole day off. And if you were out of town, there is no way I could go.
Could you change the time to 6-10 with the ceremony at 5?
EDIT: I see you are in Stafford– traffic is going to be horrible around 5 and few guests would be able to come right after work. The only way that a lot of your local guests can make it is if they take the whole day off. Are you okay with asking that? Do you think they will? It is totally up to you, but I wouldn’t be okay with it if I wanted a big wedding.
Post # 19
Why not just elope because it does not seem like you really care about providing an optimum moment for all of your close friends and family to attend.
Post # 20
That is completely uncalled for. How dare you suggest that someone does not care for their guests? Your comment was neither constructive nor helpful.
Do what is best for you. It is your wedding. I am getting married on a Monday, and pffffffffft to anyone who doesn’t want to attend.
Post # 21
what are you talking about!? it is true that she is not providing an optimum time for everyone to get to gether due to work.. blah blah. So i suggested just elope. I apologize for the use of the word “care”. [Comment moderated for name calling]
Post # 22
@HUstrawberry: sorry, I do think its a bad idea. Yes, the wedding is about you and your groom, but it’s also about two families coming together and celebrating. I wouldn’t let a favorite number dictate whether or not I’d get to be with the most important people in my life, on the most important day of my life. But hey, it’s your wedding. Just be prepared for people to not come.
Post # 23
If the date is that important to you then I would just get married at city hall then throw the reception that Saturday. You’re risking having a lot of people not be able to attend because it’s in the middle of the week. Yes you’re the bride, but above all your the hostess and the hostess puts her guests needs and comforts as a top priority.
Post # 25
I don’t think you’re selfish but personally I can’t see picking a date over spending the most important day of my life with the people I love. I look at a wedding as a celebration and I want as many people that I love there to celebrate my happy day with me. But it ultimatly comes down to what you want because it is your day, I just think you need to decide if a date is more important than the memories you could gain from having all the people you love there.
Post # 26
Completely agree with your comment. People will always find something to complain about or beinconvenienced by.
Post # 27
+1. Also, would it be possible for your ceremony to take place later in the day, closer to the time of your reception?
Post # 28
is the luck from the number 13 going to dictate what the rest of your marriage will be like?
Post # 29
IMO the memories of the people who are going to share your day with you are way more important than a certain date.
Post # 30
we are doing a thursday wedding/reception.. but are having a private ceremony. no one feels pressured to go to the earlier ceremony (and i prefer only our immediate family anyway)… and then people can join us later for a dinner/lowkey reception. people will make it if they can! as long as you dont expect everyone to be there for everything, and are comfortable with some people not being able to attend, go for it!!!
Post # 31
I actually agree with you.
You said youre planning on sending the video to everyone who couldn’t make it already.. Then you could do your reception the following weekend?
If you’re going to have the reception that night I’d leave it at 5 pm that way people that couldn’t take off work may still be able to come for that part of your wedding