- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’ll give as brief of a rundown as I can but I could really use some advise. I’m feel like I’m drowning here.
Keep in mind when you read this that my parents have been divorced for 15 years.
My wedding will only have 100 people.
When I first started planning my wedding my dad told me that he wanted to pay for the wedding. As the father of the bride he felt that is was his right and responsability to be able to do that. I thought this was fair and agreed and he gave me a budget.
Cut to meeting vendors and making plans with my mother. My venues and photographer are booked and deposits have been put down. My mother has slowly started taking over plans and has decided that the budget my father has given me will not be enough and that she should start paying for things. This scenario has snowballed, my father does not know that my mother has started paying for things, my mother wants to make sure that everyone knows she had a hand in my wedding planning too and that it wasn’t all my father, and I am now standing in the middle trying to figure out how to tell my father that my mother didn’t think his money was enough. my wedding is in four months, and I’m about eight thousand dollars over my dad’s budget.
My instinct right now is to cancel all the major decoartions (which already have deposits) and cut back everywhere or start over. Or just ellope. All I want to do is run and this is not how I want to remember my wedding. I should have the memory of fighting between my divorced parents connected with something that’s supposed to be happy and important.
please please please what do I do?!?