(Closed) My Wedding Is Ruined

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this…is the resort part of a family of resorts? would there be another option that you could use in the area you’re going to? Is your planner trying to work with other hotels there?

I’ve felt that way..take pillows, throw them around a room, if you have a car go in it, put the radio on and scream at the top of your lungs 🙁

Post # 4
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3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What’s the nearest resort to one you had booked.? Start calling all of them and see if they have an availability.  Hope is not lost.  It won’t be a total waste if you can find a resort nearby your old one.

Big big hugs.  I’m so sorry.

Post # 6
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

DAMN!! That’s awful!! Read your contract carefully and check and see if there is anything in there about a cancellation on the part of the venue. At the very least, they should have to refund any money you gave them and refer you to another venue in the area. It may involve a lot of phone calls but get a few people together and start manning the phones. The venue is at fault and the venue has to make it right.

Post # 7
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think that you could still make this work… did you purchase travel insurance? If so that takes care of all the travel expenses you put down… and if you booked the photographer through the venue I am sure you could work something out to get back at least a partial refund

Post # 8
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is there anywhere a bit further out from there, say like an hour away, that could be possible? Which area is it? Someone might be able to recommend somewhere to you…

Really hope you get it sorted! Have tonight to get it out of your system and start afresh tomorrow!

Post # 10
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh no! That’s awful. But I’m going to hold out hope that you’ll either find another venue or at the very least, all you need is hotel rooms for everyone and a park to get married in. I’m sure you don’t want to hear this and just want to be angry right now (and I would be so angry too!), but *something* will work out.

ETA: I understand your venue concerns but completely agree with the next poster. I stayed on a strip with a bunch of chain hotels in Maui and was surprised by how beautiful they were. Don’t rule them out!

Post # 11
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1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I know it sucks, but unless you want to lose that money (and have your guests lose their money!) you’re going to have to look at the other resorts.  Don’t like the chain name fool you.  Just because it’s a chain, doesn’t mean it’s not really unique.  They craft those places to fit in with the location, so a Hilton in NY is totally different than one elsewhere in the world.  Let your self be bummed for a night because it sucks, but then in the morning start making those phone calls and move on.  I guarantee on your wedding day you will not be thinking about the venue, you’ll be marrying the man you love with your family and friends there to celebrate.  The name on the outside of the building won’t matter one bit.

Post # 12
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am so sorry this happened.  It really does suck. Not stink, but suck and I totally would be upset. 

But, I think you need to give yourself a couple hours to be upset and then decided how you want to handle this.  Either you can call the wedding off over this or you can be pro-active and figure out how to resolve this.  You have to decide if you call the wedding off because it won’t be perfectly as you planned, or you make do with what you can have (hilton, etc) and roll with the punches.  

Post # 13
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Very sorry to hear about that. I would say take a day or two and relax and start a new plan. Trust me things happen for a reason! You will find something better! 

Post # 13
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

Are you getting married somewhere tropical?  Is there any way, you could find an officiant and get married on the beach?  I mean you could still stay in the hotels or even a Bed and Breakfast…

I’m sorry.

Post # 14
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why not just get married on a lovely beach and treat everyone to a great restaurant afterwards? Destination Wedding locales are set up to handle this, you really should be able to find an alternative that means everyone isn’t out the money! Once you get through the initial shock, you’ll see that it’ll all be ok!!

Post # 15
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5153 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with such stress so close to your big day but you still have a few months to work something out. Is it possible for you and your mother to make a list of restaurants, gardens, beaches, hotels/resorts, etc in the area and just split it up and start calling?

:::HUGS::: & keep us all posted 🙂

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