(Closed) My Wedding Is Ruined

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
2836 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am so sorry this happened. I agree with the other bees that you should look into other nearby resorts. I hope everything works out for you!

Post # 17
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Alright, calm down, take a very deep breath, and just sit here for a minute and hear us bees out… this is salvageable… you can do this. You will do this!

everything happens for a reason, blahblahblah… but now you’ve got a real challenge. Bring it on!!

I think you should make a list of specific things that have to be corrected, and start working your way down.

I know it’s hard to change your state of mind, but that’s just the reality of what you are going to (eventually) have to do. The sooner you do, the better you’ll be <3

If it were me, I would look for something, anything that is close enough to the original location that your guests will hardly be affected. I wouldn’t be too worried about the fact that it’s a chain location and you have “earthy” stuff. At this point, it doesn’t really matter. You may consider incorporating a few new things that will make you feel better about the lack of a super creative venue.

I’m not quite sure that anyone or anything is going to make this too much better. To quote the rest of the hive, “this sucks”.

If you are interested, I would be willing to donate wedding art for new invites:



So sorry this happened to you!! This isn’t how it’s supposed to be!


Post # 18
71 posts
Worker bee

Are you still in touch with your wedding planner? She should be ALL over this! Enlist her help to research new options. I’m sure you can still pull off a wedding that you’ll love.

Post # 19
2181 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’m so sorry to hear about this!!!! I know you’re very upset (and I would be too!), so my advice (like a few others have said) it to just take some time to BE upset. Throw something. Punch a few pillows. Put on some angry music, go for a drive, and just yell 🙂

THEN, once you’ve calmed down, you can start to think about other options. You may be able to find another small hotel where you can hold it, and it’s very lucky that everything else was booked independently! At least you aren’t out of a photographer, a caterer, etc! I wouldn’t change plans completely, especially since you said guests have already booked flights. You will find something! Just take some time to be upset about it first – then you’ll be able to think a lot more clearly 🙂

Post # 20
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

you have every right to be livid. it might be too soon to hear that things will be alright but hopefully things really will work out and this will be a story your grandkids laugh at one day (after the vein pulsing in your forehead goes down and your coordinator feels your fiery wrath that is).

Post # 21
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m really sorry to hear that this happened. That’s a big change to face only a few months out and a lot of stress for you. Now, I’m sure this is the last thing you want to hear right now, but I think your mother is right. It may seem like crazy talk right now, but SOMETHING will work out. As long as you are still marrying the man you love, the wedding isn’t totally ruined. The marriage that is taking place is truly the focus and the point of the wedding and venue or no venue, your marriage is still on and that’s what counts. Even venueless people can have a lovely wedding. I don’t know what your original venue was, but rather than lose out on the money and cancel all the flights, is there a park, a pavilion, beach or simply a nice manor or historical home or something you could book? Things may not be exactly as you planned, but sometimes these difficulties lead to really great things – blessings in disguise. The wedding planner you are paying should be on top of this situation and searching out every possible option in the area. Enlist the help of relatives, wedding party and friends. Things can, and will, come together and work out. Work through the anger and take this as a challenge you can and will overcome, and something good will come of it.

Post # 24
3928 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

What about talking to the other venues directly and explaing to them what happened. Maybe they will give you a discount.

Post # 26
223 posts
Helper bee

Maybe I missed it but have you said where your wedding is yet? 

Post # 27
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I think I would be calling and calling until she answered. And when she did answer, I would be flying off the damn handle. That is OUTRAGEOUS!!! I think she needs to offer you a discount on her services after all of this!

Post # 28
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree that she does need to be giving you some information ASAP.  Can you try to call the venue and ask to speak to the owners?  Sometimes it helps if they aren’t available ask to set up a date/time that you can call that they will be in.  

Post # 29
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

get on the net and look up for picks of the resort, i’ve found some from mine where former guests had taken pictures and posted them recently!!

Post # 30
30388 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I noticed from a previous post that you are getting married in Nassau.

Have you contacted the Ministry of Tourism for help?
They offer help in wedding planning. If anyone could suggest an alternate venue, it would be them. I am sure they would be empathetic to the situation you find yourself in.

From the United States:

The Weddings and Honeymoon Unit of the Ministry
of Tourism
Telephone: 888-NUPTIAL (687-8425)
Office Hours: Monday-Friday 9:30am-4:00pm

[email protected]

As upset as you are, I would also encourage you to take a deep breath and move on. These things happen in life. We cannot control what happens to us, only our responses.

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