Post # 1
I’m trying to finalize my processional and I’m wondering if it is rude to have our parents seat themselves (rather than be ushered to their seats)? We don’t have ushers, so my fiancé was thinking of walking them to their seats on his way down the aisle. The problem is that my ceremony is on the beach and there is nowhere to sit until you get down to the beach. I don’t want our parents having to stand around waiting to be seated. My mom said she is perfectly fine seating herself and my Fiance’s father wont care either. I’m just afraid it will seem odd.
Is it completely untraditional and rude to let the parents’ seat themselves or is it okay? It’s an 80 guest wedding and it’s casual, but nice.
Also, am I supposed to wear my engagement ring on my right finger until after the wedding band is placed on my left finger, or is it okay to leave it on the left finger and change them later?
Post # 3
I think it’s totally up to your parents on the seating themselves thing. As long as they’re fine, then I think it’s fine.
For your engagement ring, either way is fine. If neither appeals to you, you could also give your engagement ring to the best man or whoever is holding onto your ring. Then your fiance could slip them both on you at the same time. Any one of those options is perfectly fine. Or leaving it off entirely and putting it on after there ceremony is fine too. It’s all up to you. 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve been to a beach wedding before and usually the groom walks his parents down and a male from the bride’s family walks her parents down. Do you have a brother or a cousin or someone who could walk them down? Otherwise I think it would be fine to have them walk themselves.
Also, I wore my e-ring on my left hand and switched them after the ceremony. It’s not a big deal though, no one will care.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
Mr. HW escorted his mom with his dad following right behind him as he walked down the aisle. Best of all worlds. I think your idea of having Fiance escort them or even as the both of them walking with each other down to their seats is just fine. You can wear your rings however as well. I just took them both off and had Mr HW put both rings on my finger. Don’t stress, just do whichever way you feel best about it. Your initial thoughts about it seem as good as any. Don’t forget to take a deep breath! You’re almost there! Enjoy every moment of it. It’ll fly by.
Post # 6
re: processional – why wouldn’t your fiance walk his mom down? followed by his dad (as a start to the processional)? I think it would be nice to have your mom escorted down by someone as well. I’m a little confused with the seating you mentioned – do you mean there will be no where to sit as they wait to walk down the aisle?
BUT – to answer your question – I don’t think it’s rude for the parents to seat themselves – especially if they don’t care.
re: ring – you are supposed to wear it on your right hand and then switch afterwards. I totally forgot to move it to my right hand and during the ceremony I sneakily switched it. I honestly don’t think it would have mattered – it’s not like your hands are going to be super visible to anyone other than your Fiance and the officiant.
Post # 7
I seriously think that it’s fine. I never pay attention to that kind of stuff since I’m looking forward to seeing the bride come in. I don’t think it’s rude at all. If your parents are walking down together, they can seat themselves.
Post # 8
I wore my engagement ring on my left hand during the ceremony and switched the positions of the rings afterwards. And I didn’t even think of escorting my parents/grandparents to their seats.