Post # 1
My wedding planner, because of a “snafu” at a previous wedding they both worked, has caused my ceremony musicians to return my deposit. He said he could not work with her and her unreasonable demands and refuses to be at my wedding. It’s a very long, detailed story. I have not spoken to her since the day I received the email from the vendor. I did speak with him on the phone and he said he would only be there is she wasn’t.
I know, the first reaction would be to get rid of the planner. But I really like her, she has gone above and beyond many times and I really connected with her when we first met.
The musical group is the only one in this small town and I would have to bring another group in from about 70 miles away.
The groom has been dealing with her and relaying messages, since I am so furious I would be afraid of what I would say…
Post # 3
Wow, that is BS! I hope you get this straightened out. I wonder what her “unreasonable demands” were.
Post # 4
Oh wow, I find that actually to be rather unprofessional of your music group, to not suck it up and perform as planned. I have worked as a musician since I was fifteen and yes, I’ve been through an awful lot of bad conditions, but you have to just learn to stick up for yourself …
Post # 5
I think you should tell your planner what happened, get her side of the story and probably ask her if she can call the other vendor to smooth things over. If the planner was a professional, she would want to fix this kind of thing immediately for you her client as well as herself as a business.
Post # 6
She asked me if the musicians were planning on attending the rehearsal, so I emailed the leader. He said it was unnecessary for them to attend the rehearsal, they never do. So I asked if he could provide recordings of the music, and he did so. I told her I was OK with the recorded music, and it was fine with me if they did not attend. I forwarded the emails to her and she promptly sent an email to him saying it was absolutely essential the group attend the rehearsal and she did not want another snafu at my wedding.
He replied he did not like her tone and they were professionals with many years of experience. Then I receive an email from him saying he could not work with her and he would be returning my deposit.
Post # 7
Honestly… a contract is a contract. That’s all I’m going to say.
It sounds like your musician needs to find his big girl panties though.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I agree with zippyelf. The musicians have a contract with you. They should honor it. And having the live musicians at the rehearsal seems like a smart idea to me.
Post # 9
Talk to your wedding planner and get both sides of the story- I think it would be best to have your wedding planner apologize, back off and promise not to interfere with the musicians. Then ask the musicians to come back on the condition that the wedding planner doesn’t talk with them.
Post # 10
I am hoping that they both will grow up and play nice. Have a meeting with her tomorrow.