@mixtapehearts: What are you talking about? I never said that she should just get over her anxiety. Of course that would be a mean thing to say. You have clearly misunderstood one of my multiple posts in this thread.
I really wasn’t trying to be rude to you at all. The tone of my comment came from the way I approach my own anxiety. Though many PPs seem to think “I clearly don’t understand anxiety”, I have actually struggled with it throughout my life.
Growing up, my mother struggled with very extreme and intense anxiety, in situations that involved crowds of people, traffic, travel, trying new things, and etc. When I was a kid, she missed out on a lot of events, because of her anxiety. There were plays, school open houses, recitals, ball games, and the list goes on. I saw the way it crippled her, and I was determined not to let my own anxiety affect my life the way my mother’s affected hers. It was years before she sought help. Instead of trying to work through her issues, or see a therapist, she just avoided situations that made her anxious.
Because I didn’t want to go through my life simply avoiding situations that made me anxious, It was very important to me to deal with my issues head on. It was always important for me to find ways to work through my anxiety. Thats not to say its not hard, because I know it is! I can’t count the number of times I’ve locked myself in bathrooms or even in my car, crying, hyperventilating, and completely freaking out over what would seem like the silliest of things. When I got to the point that I couldn’t handle it myself, I sought professional help, and I guarantee you that I’m much better for it today.
Your situation just really hit home with me for a ton of reasons. I hope that you can find a way to deal with your anxiety, and to move past the negative feelings about your wedding day, and your Mother-In-Law. I know its hard, but its not impossible. If you let it, anxiety will prevent you from being present in your own life, and put a strain on your closest relationships. Obsessing about things that you can’t change can do the same. Though I’m just a stranger on a message board, I really don’t want that for you.