My wedding was taken over and now people are backing out. Need to Vent!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

hi bee,

i would really like to know how many adults are invited to get a better understanding of the 75 kids in relation to the whole amount of guests.

And i know i am going to be crucified now, but i am a  kinndergarden techer/nursery nurse and i wouldn´t take a job as a babysitter for a wedding where i should get little chidren and toddlers away from the party and the parents.

You can´t  just shove toddlers away from their parents to an unknown person, some might do it, many toddlers won´t stay because they don´t feel safe with the unknown person/babysitter.

So if i was invited to a wedding over 1200miles away and i would need to be at least 3 days away from home i would take my children with me or not come, because my children aren´t dogs which i can bring to a doggy guesthouse when i am out of town.

As i am german i don´t understand the problem why you shouldn´t invite your friends or why it should be a problem if the grooms has more gm than you…

Post # 47
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

OMG 75 KIDS??!!!!!

I would see if you could nix the kids and let him keep his 8 groomsmen.

75 KIDS? I feel for you. Do you live near Cleveland, Ohio? I’ll be a bridesmaid!

Post # 48
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I still can’t get over 75 kids.

I read more of this thread and saw that you said you already sent out the Save the Dates and addressed them to “xxx family.” Save the Dates are not invites. If people don’t want to come because they can’t bring their tiny human mouth breathers, tough. Say, “we’ll miss you!” and be done with it.

Seriously, 75 kids?! That’s a whole grade level at an elementry school.

I honestly wasn’t kidding about the Bridesmaid or Best Man offer, haha.

Post # 49
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2132 posts
Buzzing bee

Who is paying for this wedding? 75 children is a lot of extra money. You’re looking at extra chairs, tables, centrepieces, tablecloths, crockery etc hire, a bigger cake, and of course more food/drink. Your dance floor will be like a wiggles concert with that many children running around. What is the cleaning policy of your venue? Because I can only begin to imagine the mess that 75 children will make during the evening. Who cleans that up? Will you have to pay extra for excessive mess? Kids can be like dogs where if one starts misbehaving, the lot of them start acting up! 

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee

anthonyswife :  I keep coming back to this and blinking hard at 75 kids too! I’m like okay so there’s about 25-30 kids in a class…

Post # 51
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Worker bee

So you’re having 75 kids instead of child free small wedding. He has 8 parties and you have 2-3. It’s ridiculous. Who’s paying for this wedding?? If majority are his family (kids), him and his parents better be forking down that money. 

My biggest concern is, other than your custom dress (which I want to see!), what else are you getting that you wanted in this wedding? The huge guest list of kids and wedding parties are a big part of the wedding so I’m just wondering what you’re getting. I’m concerned when the day comes or even before, because this is so far from what you wanted, you’re going to end up resenting the whole day and possibly Fiance and his family. I was planning a wedding (broke up) and because of the guest list being majority his family and that I was paying for nearly all of the wedding, I started to resent the whole thing. I called it his family reunion because that was what it was turning into. His family had a fit that we I didn’t want kids either and some were cut from guest list. It got to a point I had to sacrifice so much of what I wanted on what was supposed to be our day. Good thing it never happened.

Please talk to your Fiance about how you feel about this whole thing. The last thing I want for you is to have anything less than magical day where it’s all abuot you and Fiance. 

Post # 52
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Busy bee

whoami :  That really sucks. I haven’t gotten around to asking people to be in my wedding party but the idea of them going all “MAYBE” is stressing me out lol. Especially when months ago they were all pushing for a wedding party and wanting to be bridesmaids and then end up having issues after all.

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