(Closed) My weight is making me feel ugly *vent*

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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532 posts
Busy bee

Sorry your family is being unsupportive, I know how upsetting that could be. What helps me sometimes, at restaurants or when I am eating out, is to just eat protein and vegetables, no bread/potatoes/rice, and nothing fried. That way, I can still eat out and I don’t feel so bad after. At sushi, I usually get a naruto roll (its made without rice) or sashimi and edamame or seaweed salad. That way, I can eat with everyone else, but I am still watching my calories. At other types of restaurants, where the portions are bigger, I also sometimes cut the portion in half at the beginning of the meal and save the other half for the next day. Also, try to cook dinner with your FI once a week. It can be fun to cook together and you can really control what goes into your food, rather than not knowing what a restaurant put in it. I have lots of healthy recipes, if you need any, let me know. Hope that helps a little. Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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532 posts
Busy bee

If you are making tacos, try making soft tacos. Just char the tortillas on an open flame, do not use any oil. Instead of beef, try using 99% lean chopped turkey, brown it in a pan with pam (no oil) and season it with taco seasoning (follow the package directions regarding adding water to the seasoning mix). Don’t use cheese or sour cream as a topping, just  use lettuce, tomato, and taco sauce. If you really miss the sour cream, use nonfat, plain greek yogurt instead. Serve it with a side salad to fill you up.

Tell me what foods you like or would like to make and I can give you some lower-calorie recipes!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

SkinnyTaste.com!  It’s been a godsend for Fiance and I, I use a recipe at least twice a week!

And the thing is, it won’t go fast.  How long did it take you to get where you are?  For me it was about 3 years.  I wanted it all gone NOW (60 lbs or so).  ANd I got SO frustrated with myself when it didn’t go.  I have lost about 30 so far, diet and a personal trainer plan.  I’ve hit the skids a bit for the last month or so, and now have to get back on the pony to keep going.

Don’t give up, and I’d suggest avoiding your family for support, sounds like they are sabatoging you, wether they mean it or not.

Post # 7
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Try cutting out white food: sugar, bread, rice, pasta. Good luck.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Just wanted to say, don’t get discouraged! It’s easy to do so when you first start trying to be healthy because you realize all at once how much progress you need to make and all of your bad habits become so noticable. But this is good! The first step is assessing your bad habits and figuring out what you’re doing wrong. The second step is implementing realistic goals and strategies to tackle those problems and changing from bad habits to good ones – and it sounds like you’re already doing a great job!

I’ve been overweight my whole life and obese over half of my life, so I definitely understand how you feel. It’s easy to get down, and especially when you’re surrounded by people who are negative influences: your family because they make fun of you and your Fiance because he encourages your bad habits.

It might take a long, serious discussion but I’m sure you can make him understand how important getting healthy is to you and get him on board with eating and living healthy. Find activites to do together that you enjoy (or set aside “me” time to be active on your own). Use websites like SkinnyTaste and EatingWell to find recipes to try together and learn how you can switch out unhealthy ingredients for healthy ones (such as using plain nonfat Greek yogurt instead of sour cream – they taste the same!)

You CAN do this! A year ago, I weighed just under 300 lb. and felt totally miserable all the time, but then I started trying to make little changes and eventually I began seeing results – I still have a LONG way to go (147 lb. left to lose total) but I’ve come so far, and so will you.

Do you use MyFitnessPal? If so, you can add me on there (jocember). I love having weight loss friends to encourage and keep track with.

Post # 10
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

Also, I will say that cutting out soda is one of the BEST changes you can make for yourself! Soda is nothing but chemicals, and nasty ones that wreak havoc on your body at that. Regular soda contains tons of sugar, and diet soda is full of artificial sweetners that have the potential to contribute to all sorts of awful diseases. So good for you! I quit soda around this time last year and now I can’t even stand the tiniest sip, it’s just gross.

You should also try to limit the amount of processed/packaged foods you eat. Aim for whole foods – fruits, vegetables, lean meats, protein, etc. – and always choose whole grain over multigrain when you can.

Post # 12
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I spend way too much time sitting at a desk, and my fiance and I want to exercise so we will have lots of energy to do excursions on our honeymoon cruise. We got a (surprisingly nice) treadmill on craigslist for only $50. Now I watch my new favorite tv show while I walk on the treadmill and 2 miles goes by like nothing! Motivation is key, and finding out what happens next episode gets me on that thing every day, haha. Once I get into “active mode” I’m in the mood to do some pushups and what not too. Even if you don’t end up your ideal weight, you will feel like you made an effort and improved your health. And as difficult as this may be, try not to overexpose yourself to alienized photoshopped models. One of my BMs is GORGEOUS but she looks at that stuff too much and thinks she’s “ugly” – yea right. It isn’t good for her self esteem or any of our self esteems. From a 1 to a 10, not one women isn’t insecure about some aspect of her appearance. You are not alone – we are right there with you. I hope you feel better πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know how you feel! I”m overweight right now (and blame it on being on and off of Prednisone). My mom used to say mean things, and even offered a new wardrobe if I could meet the weight goal she created. I talked to her about how it makes me feel, and she almost entirely stopped. Then when my health became an issue, she really understood to not talk about it. now she is so extremely suportive and wonderful. Is there any chance your mom thinks she is helping and/or doesn’t realize how it makes you feel? I only ask b/c I know my mom told me that she used to think telling me I had “fat ankles” in high school spurred a weight loss b/c I felt awful (so while yes, it worked, it was TERRIBLE and I remember crying so hard over it!). I have pictures from my wedding dress fitting and I cried so hard b/c I could only focus on how fat I feel. I broke down the  other night telling my partner that I fear he’ll think i’m fat/ugly/whatever on our wedding day.

I’m glad that your partner is supportive – that’s wonderful! I’ve stopped trying to loose weight, and more started trying to be healthier. I love Spark People (www.sparkpeople) – it’s great for support, recipes, calorie counting, etc. I also have an app on my phone that I’ve been using instead to track what I’m eating. I got rid of (almost all) the junk food in our house, and my partner makes sure we have plenty of fresh fruits and veggies.

Post # 14
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8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m in the same boat. I’m 5’3 and over 200 and it sucks. People don’t think I look anywhere near my weight. Especially when I’m only a 14/16 (depending on the brand). It doesn’t help that I suffer from depression, so I get down on myself easily.

Fiance has been great. We’re both working out and he always tells me I’m gorgeous.

Post # 15
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

@lioness_89:  You can also try explaining to him that while you love that he wants to make you feel beautiful, there are changes you need to make to be happy and feel healthy and you would like him to help encourage you along your journey. I had to have a similar discussion with my Fiance last year because at first he was worried I was going about weight loss the wrong way and kept insisting I didn’t need to make the changes I was making. Now we’re on the same page, and it’s so great to work out together and plan healthy meals together. I’m sure you can get your Fiance on board, too πŸ™‚

And don’t worry about cheating with the soda. It takes time to break a habit – I started off by limiting myself to 1-2 a week, then just 1 a week and then only one once in a blue moon when I was tired and needed the caffeine/carbonation. Eventually, I just stopped having any interest in drinking it at all. So you’ll get there πŸ™‚

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