(Closed) My "Why don't people know how effing RSVP cards work" post

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think asking the bride for another guest is wrong.  YOU are putting bride on the spot.  We wrote names on RSVPs AND I told caterer to have two tables at back with folding chairs, no centerpiece, and to serve vendor meals there to all the univted guests who show up.  If parents bitch, they can sit with their kdis.

Post # 32
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ugh this happened to me… I addressed to my aunt and uncle. 

We got the RSVP card back with aunt uncle, daughter with her son, son and wife and two kids, other son and girlfriend and baby. 

I had a minor freak out. Honestly I’m pretty sure THIS takes the take. 

PLUS after letting them know that wasn’t how it was intented (although they were ALL invited to the reception to follow) my cousin (the daughter) called me out on facebook… It was SO annoying 

We had a guest list that was VERY small (around 65) for the ceremony and sit down dinner, but after that we had anyone who wanted to come for dancing and drinks and our cake and dessert buffet. 

Post # 33
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can understand your point when you are sending the RSVP cards back, (although I would have to disagree with you) but in my case, I believe it was different. Fiance has a job where he has to go out of town on very short notice and often is gone several weeks longer than expected. I found out 2 days before my friend’s wedding that he wouldn’t be home in time and I was worried that she would pay for a plate that went unused. Which is why I asked her what she would like me to do.


And we don’t have to be bridezillas about it… a simple explaination would be “I would love to be able to include everyone, but unfortunately we are limited by size and budget. I hope you understand”. If people still get pissed, that’s their problem, not yours.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 6 months ago by  msfreemis.
  • This reply was modified 6 years, 6 months ago by  msfreemis.
Post # 34
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Ugh I hate this! This is the one thing I’m 



This happened to my sister. She received an RSVP 

from our aunt & uncle with 2 extra guest added to their 4 person invite! She had a serious meltdown

because she received it AFTER she had given the venue her final head count & our mother insisted 

she make room for them. Talk about drama! 

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