Post # 1
So i been married for a 1.5 year no. Right now due to my job me and my wife are in different states. she is currently living w her mom and dad until i can come back.
First off, her mom complelty hates me, without a doubt. she told me personnaly to. But the thing is my wife always lies and tells me she doesnt. her mom continues to insult me and talks alot about me behind my back. for instanc ewhen me and my wife were skyping, my wife didnt think she had the mic on, and her mom began to bash on me and my wife complelty agreed with her!! i bit my tongue and just acted like i didnt hear anything,
i usually would say something, but then my wife gets upset and either way i am the bad guy in both my wifes and mom in law eyes! i dont understand it. my wife will have her moms back everytimr before me, she never sticks up for me or anything!
i need advise on what you guys reccomened i should do!
Post # 3
@ohno1992: you should speak to your wife directly about this.
Post # 4
@ohno1992: Have you ever talked to your wife about this? Let her know how it makes you feel, especially when she joins in! (That’s realy messed up btw.) Don’t just tell her in passing or in the middle of another conversation. Sit down with this as the discussion topic and stay calm but firm.
Post # 5
@ohno1992: Talk to your wife about it. Honestly, if my DH was that way about me, I would seek some martial counseling.
Post # 6
have you spoken directly to your wife about this??
Post # 7
@HisMoon: This. Don’t be afraid to have a direct conversation about it. She should know how you feel and make you a priority.
Post # 8
I second the PP’s thoughts about talking directly with your wife and the possibility of marriage counseling.
Post # 9
Your wife should not be taking her moms side. You need to talk to her directly about this. It sounds like your wife is the type to get hyper upset if you call her out on anything. Sounds like she wants to please both you and her mother. You need to tell her how much it hurts you that she takes her moms side when it comes to you. She vowed to marry you-not her mom, so her loyalty is to you.
Talk to her kindly and just let her know that you understand that her moms oppinion of you probably puts her in a horrible situation-between defending you and wanting to please her mom-but that she needs to be willing to risk her comfort to stick up for you. If you let this continue it will only get worse and you don’t need your MIL interfering with your marriage.
If you can, when you can, I think it would be best if you two distanced yourself from her.