(Closed) My words of advice for the Destination Bride – Please learn from my regret…

posted 9 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 18
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@west.coast.blonde: one of the ways I’ve decided to “get over it” is to help with future weddings. I’m going to be the one who plays “the bad guy” so that the bride doesn’t have to. Clearly no one wanted to cause a scene at your wedding so they didn’t remove the guy but maybe next time if this happens at someone else’s wedding, we’ll be the ones to quietly “fix” the drama. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
Bee
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

Wow! I am so glad he didn’t ruin your wedding day. Also made me glad that the trouble makers in our family didn’t come. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 20
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Thanks @west.coast.blonde this is great advice – i’m so sorry you had to share your Destination Wedding with that neanderthal.

In time, others will have their special day ruined by him and hopefully he’ll be “phased” out of the group.

I’m not having a Destination Wedding but it is a Destination Wedding for 80% of our guests and I will keep this in mind!

Post # 21
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i just want to apologize for what happened during your Destination Wedding wedding, thats just horrible.. I am having a destination wedding with 35+ plus people coming. basically just family and close friends. I know with alcohal this has a potential of getting out of hand. Now naturally i am a sweet, laid back, kind of girl.. but for my Destination Wedding i WILL be putting my footdown and will not be afraid to tell anyone about themselves and how they are acting. If that guy was at my Destination Wedding he would be on the next flight out of there.

Post # 23
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4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m so sorry.. We are just sending invitations to our Destination Wedding, Maybe because this post i will not send one of those..

Post # 24
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Thank you for this post…it confirms recent rumblings I’ve been having with the two grown adult “children” of old family friends that go WAY back.  Let’s leave it at they’ve caused alcohol-induced scenes are siblings’ weddings, including bar fights afterward with locals in front of other guests of ours they didn’t know.  We were racking our brains for the people we were worried could cause an issue of this sort (ie, guests of ours’ see ‘scenes’ created by other guests they don’t know)…I called my dad to share my feelings and ask his opinion.  After the previous incident, he gave me full permission to not invite them, despite our families’ long history.  Luckily, most of that history is just that, so the obligation has ceded.  I’m going to take him up on the permission to not invite.  

I’m sorry this happened to you and your advice is much appreciated as this can be a tough decision when faced with these folks who can be liabilities also being people that are hard NOT to invite for various reasons.  

Post # 24
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Thank you for this post…it confirms recent rumblings I’ve been having about the two grown adult “children” of old family friends that go WAY back.  Let’s leave it at they’ve caused alcohol-induced scenes are siblings’ weddings, including bar fights afterward with locals in front of other guests of ours they didn’t know.  We were racking our brains for the people we were worried could cause an issue of this sort (ie, guests of ours’ see ‘scenes’ created by other guests they don’t know)…I called my dad to share my feelings and ask his opinion.  After the previous incident, he gave me full permission to not invite them, despite our families’ long history.  Luckily, most of that history is just that, so the obligation has ceded.  I’m going to take him up on the permission to not invite.  

I’m sorry this happened to you and your advice is much appreciated as this can be a tough decision when faced with these folks who can be liabilities also being people that are hard NOT to invite for various reasons.  

Post # 24
Member
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Thank you for this post…it confirms recent rumblings I’ve been having about the two grown adult “children” of old family friends that go WAY back.  Let’s leave it at they’ve caused alcohol-induced scenes are siblings’ weddings, including bar fights afterward with locals in front of other guests of ours they didn’t know.  We were racking our brains for the people we were worried could cause an issue of this sort (ie, guests of ours’ see ‘scenes’ created by other guests they don’t know)…I called my dad to share my feelings and ask his opinion.  After the previous incident, he gave me full permission to not invite them, despite our families’ long history.  Luckily, most of that history is just that, so the obligation has ceded.  I’m going to take him up on the permission to not invite.  

I’m sorry this happened to you and your advice is much appreciated as this can be a tough decision when faced with these folks who can be liabilities also being people that are hard NOT to invite for various reasons.  

Post # 24
Member
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Thank you for this post…it confirms recent rumblings I’ve been having about the two grown adult “children” of old family friends that go WAY back.  Let’s leave it at they’ve caused alcohol-induced scenes are siblings’ weddings, including bar fights afterward with locals in front of other guests of ours they didn’t know.  We were racking our brains for the people we were worried could cause an issue of this sort (ie, guests of ours’ see ‘scenes’ created by other guests they don’t know)…I called my dad to share my feelings and ask his opinion.  After the previous incident, he gave me full permission to not invite them, despite our families’ long history.  Luckily, most of that history is just that, so the obligation has ceded.  I’m going to take him up on the permission to not invite.  

I’m sorry this happened to you and your advice is much appreciated as this can be a tough decision when faced with these folks who can be liabilities also being people that are hard NOT to invite for various reasons.  

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