(Closed) My Worst Nightmare! Please Help!

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats on your pregnancy. 

Weight loss: you’ll have 3 months. The people I know who have had babies all looked like their pre-pregnancy selves within 3 months or less. You’ll be able to fit into your dress. 

Baby at wedding: totally fine to bring him/her at that age. Ask a family member to watch baby for you during the ceremony. 

Honeymoon: what about taking a trip before the wedding? Like a babymoon/honeymoon combo? And then maybe for your 1 year anniversary, you could go on another trip and leave the baby at home with a family member? 

Post # 4
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Also, you are so lucky. You got pregnant when you thought you couldn’t! And you’re getting married to your Fiance. I know it isn’t the timing you imagined, but you’re lucky. My worst nightmare is something much, much worse than this….

Post # 5
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My friend who is about your size had a baby and lost the weight really fast.  Within a couple months (and not working out, I don’t think), it barely looked like she had a baby.  People say breastfeeding helps you lose weight, but she didn’t do that either.  I think it also depends on your age.  I think she was 27 when she had her son.

Will someone you trust watch your baby so you can go on a honeymoon?

Either way, you should be celebrating.  You’re getting everything you’ve always dreamed of… a wedding, a great husband, and the baby you thought you’d never have.  The timing isn’t exactly as you would have wished, but think about what you ARE getting that you wished for!


Post # 6
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Lindsay22:  First take a deep breath… You need some time to process all this. Sometimes things happen at the strangest times, but this is something you wanted. 1. Yes you can bring the baby to the wedding, he/she will be a month and a half old, so it shouldn’t be a big issue, if anything designate someone to help you take care of him/her. 2. Can you make adjustments to your honeymoon? or postpone it until the baby is older and you will feel comfortable leaving him/her with someone while you go on the trip? 3. If you eat well and excersise regularly you can bounce back fairly easily from the baby weight. Do not limit your intake or calorie count because then you may not take in enough nutrients, but if you eat a balanced diet you should be just fine. 4. If you have already bought the dress of your dreams, wait until the very last minute to get it altered. Find a good seamstress/ alterations department that would be willing and able to alter the dress in a shorter time frame. You can make this work. Big hugs and congratulations to you!

Post # 8
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

could you move your wedding up to say June?

Post # 9
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Totally doable, and congratulations!! The biggest thing I can say about my wedding is that even though I had been imagining it my whole life, and looking forward to it, and planning everything perfectly.. it really just was ONE day, and after it had passed it seemed incredibly insignificant in comparison to the rest of my life.

Try not to get too wrapped up in what having this baby may change because once your wedding day has passed I assure you, you’ll be thinking “I was worried about THAT?”.

As stillme showed, each scenario can be managed and although it’s not exactly what you had planned it can still all be great experiences.

Plus, you’ll have the cutest flower girl/ring bearer on the block :).

ETA- one of my bridesmaids had her 1 month old at our reception, she asked a friend to watch the baby since she was at the head table for dinner (so was her husband) and busy and he slept through pretty much the whole night. She kept him there a few hours and fed him when he needed it and then a family member took him home for the rest of the evening.

Post # 10
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Lindsay22:  Yeah, I know what you mean. I don’t know what your venue is like, but maybe you could hire a babysitter to watch the baby in your hotel room or, if that’s not feasible, in a separate room somewhere at the venue. You could bring a pack n play for the baby to sleep in. That way the baby can hang out at the wedding a little bit and then go to sleep when it wants to. 

Post # 11
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Lindsay22:  First off, congrats!! Life doesn’t always happen as we plan it, but I think that once this all sinks in, you’ll be very happy. Big shock, big change… but it’ll all work out.

Post # 12
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012


When it comes to losing weight after pregnancy there is a variety of factors. Every woman is different. Some lose it right away and some struggle with it for awhile. I am 5’3″. I was 110 pounds pre-pregnancy. I gained a whopping 40 pounds while pregnant.

2.5 months post-partum and at 115 pounds now however…I gained a full cup in my breasts. So I had to buy all new bras. I also went up a pant size. I have curves now so I guess that is a good thing…

As far as the baby. Like I said, she is 2.5 months and I have taken her to a lot of social events. I think the only thing that could make it difficult is if the baby hates bottles and prefers the breast as mine does. She is very dependent on me and she is not one of those sleep all day babies. She wants my attention and she wants it now!! lol In that case it is usually best to have the baby with someone else and away from you, because once they see or smell you, game over. 😮

Either way, I really don’t think you should worry about it. Like others said, it is manageable and your wedding will be perfect regardless. Enjoy that little bundle, they grow up so fast! 🙂



Post # 13
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have never had children, so no real advice to give, but I wanted to give my congrats! The timing is less than ideal, but it was obviously meant to be. You are starting a family!! So exciting 🙂

Post # 14
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congrats! And my only advice about what’s been said above is to allow yourself to feel whatever you need to. These are huge life changes and it’s okay to feel sad/confused/happy all at once even if it’s something you’ve wanted forever.

Post # 15
1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Lindsay22:  I have a friend who got into a very tight bridesmaid dress 19 days after giving birth.  She looked great.  During her pregnancy, she was healthy and continued working out and never went overboard on eating.  

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