Mystery RSVPs ! FML

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

everythingpink :  *facepalm*. i’m also guessin that the return envelopes for those didn’t have return addresses either?

basically, the only thing to do at this point is wait until after your RSVP deadline, and use process of elimination. after the deadline, you’ll have to start contacting people who didn’t respond anyway, and so hopefully somewhere in there you’ll get a response from 4 guests saying “oh, i thought we replied!” nothing more you can do but to follow up with the mystery guests with all the non-responses.

and if there’s *ever* a time in the future that you’re planning a big party….NUMBER THOSE RSVP CARDS!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Ugh, I feel ya! Also did not number my cards. Although I haven’t yet received any without names completely, I got one from one of FH’s more distant relatives who we gave a plus one, and his RSVP reads: Firstname Lastname and Mo. Like, who is Mo? Is his or her place card just supposed to be “Mo”? I’ve asked FH’s mom to ask this cousin for more detail, but what a pain. 

All this wedding stuff has made me much more conscious of how I fill out RSVPs to others’ weddings and parties, and doing it on time, for sure!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

everythingpink :  I received a few like that and I was able to narrow it down by the zip code on the RSVP, we lucked out in that the two people that made this mistake lived in a different zip code from the majority of my others guests.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

everythingpink :  I luckily thought to number my cards but my thoughts were “come on! who’s dumb enough to not write their name on it!?”. Then… I found out. My aunt, apparently, lol. Luckily, I had it numbered and she’s the only person in a certain state that we invited so I could find out through the zipcode it was mailed from.

That said – I would wait and see who doesn’t respond and use process of elimination. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

That’s a huge plus for online RSVPs! You can’t get anywhere without a name.

Good luck bee!!! 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

everythingpink :  weird that they both have tick marks that look like they were made by someone who has heard a tick described but never actually drawn one before, and both used thicker pen for the numbers, with a very similar shape 2… kind of looks like they were filled in by the same person. Could it be someone having a little joke?!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

coolwater17 :  And the 2’s while slightly different in size are pretty much the same shape and definitely look drawn by the same person.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I numbered mine so I didn’t have this exact problem, but I had at least 2 different guests whose first name started with M and they used the M to be the first letter rather than mr/mrs/ms etc.  Really laughed at that one.

I think you’ll have to figure out who hasn’t replied by May 12 and contact them, as said above.  It’s not a terrible thing–I had several people who sent their cards back that didn’t make it before the wedding.  (The postmark on them does she they were sent back in time, but the post office messed up a lot of ours, and some arrived during the honeymoon.)

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I literally just numbered all of mine yesterday because of this. 110 invitations are numbered. 

Post # 11
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298 posts
Helper bee

coolwater17 :  I was thinking the same thing,.  That two really stands out from everything else. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

everythingpink :  wow. They didn’t tell you who OR how many of them. Could you narrow it down by thinking who you have invited who generally struggles at life? Anyone who wears their shoes on the wrong feet or eats chocolate bars with the wrappers still on…? Sheesh.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Hey, at least they all want fish. 😉

but yes, while we are having a small wedding, I wasn’t going to risk this so I numbered them.

Good luck Bee!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Oh that stinks! Good luck figuring it out- did the envelope have any clues? 

If it makes you feel any better, I numbered mine and still had issues. Two people mailed their RSVP cards back totally blank. Didn’t mark if they were attending or not or anything. Just the blank card sent back to me exactly the way they received it. Had to call and find out if they were coming (they all were). So even the numbering doesn’t make it *totally* foolproof!

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