- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So here is the deal, without a doubt, I am taking my fiancee’s last name when we get married. But I am having a little trouble deciding what to do with my middle. On one hand, I am not particularly fond of my middle name. It’s ok, but nothing special. I LOVE my last name. And I think that Rossi Toetenel sounds much better than Rose Toetenel. Here is where it gets tricky. The reason I love my last name is because I am so close to my dad, and I feel that it still honors him. But I come from a very emotionally messed-up household (not my dad at all), and my relationship with my mother is non-existent; despite the fact their marriage is still very much intact. Because it was such a violent, unhealthy childhood I like the idea of starting out with a new name; and leaving that stage of my life behind me as I marry the kindest, most gentle man. Any feedback?