Post # 1
Hi there Bees, i have a question. I’m atached to my last name. Let’s pretend it’s Jones and lets pretend my fiance’s last name is Smith. (I live in NY) Can i be Danielle Marie Jones Smith? Without the hyphen? Sometimes computer have a hard time with the hyphen and that might create problems down the line so i was just wondering, Has anyone done this? Also can i have TWO midde names? Maybe i can be Danielle Marie Jones Smith that way so that we have the same last name but i still get to keep my last name as my second middle name. Maybe it’s dumb to some people but i’ve had my name for 20 something years i’m not about to throw it away because i’m getting marreid.
Post # 3
You can do it, but I imagine it would make it difficult for some situations because having two middle names is uncommon, which wouldn’t really solve the issue you have with a hyphenated name. It might be easier for you to drop your middle name and take your maiden name as your new middle name.
And I don’t think it sounds dumb at all – many women keep their last name in some shape or form nowadays!
Post # 4
FTR, I’ve had my name for 27 years and threw it away with both hands.
Post # 5
It depends on the laws in your state. Some states allow you to have 2 middle or last names. Some do not. That’s legally. Practically you can do whatever you want. Having 2 last names can be confusing because different systems will list it differently and some may not let you enter 2 names without a hyphen. 2 middle names is less problematic simple because middle names are rarely actually used for anything.
I’m also attached to my name but didn’t want to deal with these issues – so I just kep my name how it is!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Even if you change your middle name to your maiden name on your legal documents you can still use Marie when introducing yourself and signing your name.
Post # 7
I don’t know about your ability to have four names in NY. However, from what I’ve read online, New York is one of a handful of states that will not permit a woman to change her middle name to her maiden name as part of a name change due to marriage.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@daniellemc: I love my name too. I will have two middle names because I don’t want to give up any part of my identity. I think it would be really hard to have two last names without a hypen. My new legal name will be:
Christine MiddleName MaidenName Husband’sLastName
Post # 9
According to this
article on HuffPo, it is possible as long as they change it on their social security card and passport first?
Post # 10
@daniellemc: You can have two middle names but don’t count on it to be consistently used by institutions. It may make more sense to drop your middle name entirely and replace it with your maiden name.
My sister has added her husband’s last name to hers without hyphenation. Because it doesn’t flow very well and because they are two distinct names, she runs into problems. She has it hyphenated most of the time (like at the bank, etc) because a hyphenated last name is so much more common than one with two surnames. For the record, her last name now is something like Johnson Smithers, and most people just assume it is Johnson-SMithers.
If it’s something like De Beers or van de Beers, the spaces wouldn’t cause so much trouble. I think people just have a hard time wrapping their heads around how someone can have two stand alone surnames. When it comes to picking up something that is filed by last name, people will know that the first letter of a hyphenated last name is what the document should be filed under. In my sister’s case, she first has them look under J, it won’t be there, she’ll have them search under S, and voila, always there.
Post # 11
@daniellemc: you can do whatever you want. if you want to be Danielle Marie Jones Smith, then you should be.
I’ve had my last name for 32 years and was happy to take my husbands name after we got married. a few people were shocked i didn’t move my maiden name to the middle. had i done that, i would have kept my middle name because it really like it, so i would have had 4 names.
Post # 12
I legally changed my name to his last name. But at work I go by my first name – maiden name – his last name.
Post # 13
Ahh, OK. Thanks! That article is more detailed regarding the situation in NY than the information I first read about this on the MissNowMrs.com site. I thought NY was in the same category as CA, PA, WA, NJ, and OH.
Post # 14
My ex sister-in-law used First Name, Middle Name, Maiden Name, and Husbands Last Name legally an that was in Virginia. I am simply not changing my name at all.
Post # 15
@daniellemc: Yes, you can have two last names without them being hyphened! I have that…although I am not married yet. I have my biological dads last name..and then my dad adopted me when I was in 8th grade. The social worker explained my options like this: If your name is hyphened, you legally NEED to go by both last names, all the time. Which I did not like. If I did not hyphen it, I could go by either/or both last names. (sorry so confusing. LOL) Back to the married name change thing though…I have a few friends that have two legal last names…and some who changed their middle name to their surname…so you definitely have lots of options 🙂
Post # 16
that is VERY good to know!!! Thank you!!