Post # 1
Basically, I never wanted to take my husbands name when we got married, but I signed with his last name. I still haven’t done any official name changing. I hate that I gave in to what everyone else wanted.
So do I really have to go through with it and get my new social security card, drivers license…etc?
Post # 2
You don’t have to. You signed the marriage license with his last name? I don’t know the legal parameters but that one signature shouldn’t mean you have to change everything
Post # 3
No you don’t!! This is YOUR choice, hon, and no one gets to make it for you.
Post # 4
I think you do since you legally signed with his name. Why were you so worried about changing your name? Is it something you really regret or now it has happened you’re just going to go with it?
I think if you really have a problem you might be able to use your maiden name on non official documents, but if you signed a legal paper saying you’ve now become married and taken his name, all legal documents now need to have that same name.
Post # 5
Thanks for the responses. We were engaged for many years, but the wedding was actually rushed due to family illness =/ so I didn’t have enough time to think or process anything.
Post # 6
The social security card is the important one. As long as that name is correct it’s fine.
Post # 7
I don’t think the name on the marriage cert matters much overall. If you don’t want to take his last name, don’t.
That said, the change for civil things– social security, driver’s lisence, insurance was all super easy. Even my passport…I’d gotten it a year before so easy peasy.
The two sore points have been
1) my work computer since it was encripted under the old name (but that’s a statement to our poor IT, not name change)
2) my retirment from a company I’d left. They just keep effing it up.
And honestly, so far since being married it’s made our lives alot easier. When we went on a business trip (same place different companies) and our flights got changed they booked us together, but not his co-worker…even though we’d booked tickets seprately. I sign for deliveries…I can go to the bank and do things without needing to explain 5000 times that I’m his wife.