Post # 1
just wondering how many bees kept their names, or mixed it up.
I decided not to change my name and to put his as my middle name. he was more than willing to change his last name to mine(i got a good man!). Instead we went with switching both our middle names because i didnt want to upset his family, who already were mad that i refused to change my last name. His parents would have freaked if he had changed his last name, they are very traditional.
so our names are now opposites, mine is his last, followed my last. His is my last, his last. when we went for our marriage certificate the clerk told us she had never seen that done and had to check if it was legal lol!
the only bad thing about it was that we could not keep our original last names. i thought we would just be adding to them, but when you go this route you have to have all other middle names removed. his middle name was his fathers first name(oops.)
comment with what you did!
This topic was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by mrsrodross.
Post # 2
I’m begrudgingly changing mine. :/
Post # 3
I changed my last name to his, had absolutely no qualms about it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom
I happily changed my last name to his and replaced my middle name with my maiden name. I wasn’t a huge fan of my middle name
Post # 5
This is awesome! A friend of mine did this and she’s the only person I’d heard of who took that approach.
DH and I both kept our names; it never even occurred to him that we’d do otherwise. I believe his exact words on the subject were, “But you’re Mightywombat Lastname. It would be so weird if you were Mightywombat Husbandsname.”
Post # 6
I happily changed my name. It’s what I wanted to do.
Post # 7
I will be changing mine to first name, middle name, his last name and I am another in the camp of didn’t mind one bit.
*edit* I also personally feel that it is more important to keep my middle name as that was the name that my parents put a lot of thought and consideration on giving me. It was chosen for me by the people who love me the most. My last name has no importance as it has just been passed down and even changed multiple times after coming to the US. It has no sentimental value for me.
Post # 8
I’m changing my last name but can’t decide if I want to keep both my middle and last or change my maiden to my middle.
I am excited to change my name and can’t wait!!
Post # 8
I just changed mine today…if it didnt matter to my husband I would have left it alone
Post # 10
I happily changed my last name.
My maiden name was two extremely common names hyphenated together, leaving me with a last name that had 15 characters. It never fit on anything and made my work-life difficult because people would constantly get my name wrong or misspell my e-mail address and I’d miss out on important messages. It was just annoying and a hassle overall. Plus one of my last names was my biological father’s name, who I hate and don’t want to be associated with. While I love my mother’s side of the family (my other last name) it wasn’t like it felt as though it was personally my family’s name, as it is one of the most common names in America.
So, I changed it when I got married and I absolutely love my name. It sounds really good with my first name and I get compliments on it all the time! Plus it’s unique and only four letters, which is such a welcomed changed after writing my long-ass maiden name all those years lol!
Also my husband wouldn’t have cared either way. Many women in his family (including his own mother) kept their maiden names, so my decision wasn’t at all influenced by him.
Post # 11
When I married my exhusband I USED his name, but I never legally changed it. At the time I changed it on my drivers license (then you didn’t need to show a marriage cert to prove it). So a good number of years later I knew I was going to get a divorce (already separated). I got a random call from HR asking for a copy of my SS card and my ID. Well they obviously didn’t match up. Since we have govt contracts this was a no no apparently. I was told I needed to go get my name changed otherwise they would hold my paychecks!
So just months prior to filing for divorce I finally legally took his name! >:[
Post # 12
I am planning to add his last name and have a double barrelled last name. Not sure if my state allows it, but I like that option the best – otherwise I’ll have two middle names.
Post # 13
I will be changing my last name to his. I love the idea of making your maiden name your middle name and then making his last name yours! No one can pronounce my last name, it’s a mouthful so I’m excited to take his short and easy to pronounce last name. I won’t be making my maiden name my middle name because of how long and hard to pronounce it is.
Post # 14
Keeping my name. My children, foundation and various trusts are all in my name and it would be a hassle to change them.
Post # 15
Happliy changed my surname to his. there was no way i was putting my surname (15 letters) as my middle name.