Post # 1
I have been planning to change my name to his last name, but in the last month (3 weeks from the wedding now!) I have had A LOT of people tell me that I shouldn’t change to his last name because my last name is ‘better’.
It is a big deal because I am a teacher, so I will get called this name ALL of the time.
People say that it is a name that is easy to make fun of, which is why I shouldn’t change to it. I am hurt and not sure what to do.
Now I’m starting to consider other options, but none seems right. Like, I know that he had said he could take my name, but for the last year I have been saying I will take his because it is traditional. I like the idea of us having the same name as our children. Advice?
Post # 3
I changed my name to my husband’s even though my initials now spell a dirty word. But I like his name and don’t care if I could be ‘made fun of’ now. Do what you want, it sounds like you wanted to change your name before these people poo-pooed on it so you should consider that again!
Post # 4
Here’s my potential new last name. Please tell me your 100 percent honest reaction.
Post # 5
I think it’s cute! I don’t see how people would make fun of you for it. And if you are worry about your future kids, children can find a way to make fun of any name, even normal mundane ones.
Post # 6
MissAsB thank you.
I am curious: When you read it do you pronounce it “Paw Zo” or “Poe-zoe’?
Post # 8
I see it and think “Poe Zoe.” I can see kids making fun of it (don’t know what grade you teach) but I think you should just go with your heart and change it if that’s what you want to do!
Post # 9
Pronounced Po-zo? I wouldn’t have thought anything of it if you didnt mention people making fun of it… but now that you have, if you’re a teacher (depends on what grade maybe), I can honestly see how that could easily be made fun. That said, I still don’t think I’d let it effect me. I’d say follow tradition if thats what your heart desires. And just keep them kids in check! =D
Post # 10
I agree that it depends on the grade. Kindergarten students never make fun of names, but I am still getting established and may need to do some older grades for a few years.
I was thinking about pronouncing it ‘paw-zo instead because it is less like Bozo the Clown. But I was wondering how you people read it because I also don’t want to spend my life correcting people on how to pronounce my name. A lot of parents, for example, will read my name and want to say hello upon meeting me. I don’t want my first interaction to be correcting the way they pronounce it.
So complicated! 🙂 But you ladies have made me feel okay about my new last name and that is a big deal to me. Thank you! (Keep up the comments)
Post # 11
I think its cute…and I agree that kids will make fun of everything, no matter whether its easy or not. If you want to change your name, do it! If you dont, then dont, but either way dont let your friends or family influence your decision. Youre the one who has to live with it, not them. 🙂
Post # 12
I would say if you want to take his last name, take it. As for parents pronouncing it wrong, I think they will hear their children pronounce it before meeting you right? So they will probably pronounce it right. Or you can always just start off be saying, “Hi, I’m Mrs. Pozzo.”
Post # 13
I think if you want to change it you should change it.
My maiden name is very traditional/common and EVERYONE can pronounce/spell it…and I really love it! It shows (clearly) my Irish heritage 🙂 But I still decided to change it because I really wanted to take my husbands name…even though it is hard to spell and pronounce!
I would say “poe-zoe”
Post # 14
I think the important thing is that you guys share a last night. I don’t know if it matters if its yours or his. If you really feel strongly about it then see if he will take yours. However, I think it should be because of better reasons then what other people think.
Just to add, my maiden name is very hard (polish) name. Every time I meet someone the first thing is always pronunciation. It does get old. Even with a simpler married name I think there will always be some pronunciation clarifications.
Also, When I heard Pozzo, I didn’t think Bozo at all.
Post # 15
It wasn’t even clear to me how someone would make fun of that name until I read some of the replies. It’s really not bad – don’t even worry about it. Before you said it I was imagining something much worse.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I think it’s not a bad name and kids are going to make fun of their teachers no matter what – they make fun of each other and they make fun of their teachers – we all did it! If it’s just your name, it’ll be funny for one day and they’ll move on (my mom, the teacher with bright red curly hair and funky clothes got called “Miss Frizzle” you know, of Magic School Bus fame for YEARS…she just laughed with them!) I think if you want to change your name, you should!!