(Closed) Name change – don’t want to give up Dr. title

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

You never have to give up your Dr.  even if you change to his last name!  (I’m not sure where etiquette dictates that… It must be something I missed).  You earned that and it’s yours to keep forever!

For the record, I think it’s only a few relatives on his side that call me Mrs.  and I think that’s only because they don’t know what I do for a living. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I HATE Mrs. HisFirst HisLast too.  When our priest made the announcement after mass I made him say MyFirst & HisFirst HisLast.  Same with our DJ when we got announced into our reception.  I will always introduce myself as Mrs. MyFirst HisLast.  He really wants me to change my name (which I haven’t yet, still waiting on marriage certificate in mail), so I said I would, but I really don’t want to EVER be called Mrs. HisFirst HisLast.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Yes you never give up a Dr. Esq. etc. titles just because you get married. That degree and title are all yours whether married single or divorced.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Why would you have to give up Dr.? You’d be Dr. and Mr. Yourfirst and Hisfirst Hislast, from what I understand (unless it’s Dr. and Mr. Hisfirst Hislast, but you keep the Dr. and go ahead of him. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What one of my co-workers has done, and what I plan on doing, is changing my name legally and having that be what most people know me by… but keeping my madien name professionally. That way, people who already know me by my maiden name can continue to address me as such and find my information through our university directory system etc. Plus, since I have already published under my madien name, keeping it professionally allows all of my publications to be tied together and counted as the same person vs. some people accidentally counting them as two separate people.  I dont know if that helps at all, but I thought I’d at least give it a try! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh and as far as people addressing things… my mom is a Dr. and my dad isnt, so they usually get things addressed to Mr. X and Dr. Y LastName.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

hah that’s great Spaniel. I think being called Mrs. hisfirst and last are more of a thing during the wedding or mass after that your Mrs. your first his last and if your working it would be Dr. his last…basically its a matter of preference and you saying it to others I prefer being called such and such.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Keep your Dr. title! Like you said girl, you worked on it and earned it. Like the other girls said, you shouldn’t have to give up a title like that when you get married.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Etiquette also dictates that the person with the title comes first. So you’d never be Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast. I believe it would be Dr. Yourfirst and Mr. Hisfirst Hislast.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

haha honestly I say screw etiquette do what you prefer. I worked at my university as a receptionist doing tons of mailings all of the women were refered to as Dr. not Mrs. most things are addressed using the higher more formal title.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Thanks for letting me know… I dont ever address stuff to them using Dr., Mr., or Mrs. considering they are my parents… just letting you know how I’ve seen it done before. Regardless, my point was, I agree that if you have your doctorate you should be addressed as Dr. ๐Ÿ™‚

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