Post # 1
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Newbee
Bees –
I have always liked my last name…It’s fairly well known in my country (US) while not being too common (along the lines of Mac Namara). Recently, it has become very popular due to a movie/TV show.
I have always been ambivalent about changing my name, but my husband really wants me to. His name is actually shorter than mine but the spelling is tricky and people never know how to pronounce it (along the lines of Placzek).
Recently I’ve been struggling with losing my birth surname. At the same time though, I am excited to change my name to be my husband’s name. I live in a part of the country and work in an environment where it’s quite common for women to keep their birth surnames.
Has anyone else been through something similar?
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Post # 2
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Busy bee
seesom: I just decided socially I would take my husbands last name but legally keep mine. when we have children they will have his last name. it was the best compromise for us as a couple.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
seesom: Yes. I’m the other way around though. My name isn’t common and his is. I don’t really like it. But I’m changing it for him. He never told me I had to. But he did tell me it would mean a lot to him if I did. It is also important to me to have the same last name as our future children. So I’m biting the bullet and just doing it. Hopefully it will grow on me.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
I liked my last name more than my husband’s. I kept mine, and he kept his. So far it has been a non-issue… and the lack of paperwork was glorious!
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
My fiance is taking my last name. We both liked mine better, and it is easier for his students to say (he is a teacher).
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I didn’t change my name for that exact reason. I asked him before we got engaged if it would bother him, and he said it seemed like a big pain to change your name and he wouldn’t want to either. I think it hurt his family’s feelings, but they got over it
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
I’m going to a pretty unique last name, to a very common last name. My compromise is just using my birth name as a middle name
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
My FI has a really crazy German last name. He gets reactions literally every single time he has to tell someone it, and then has to spell it 2-4 times.
My last name is really simple, easy to spell, and associated with a certain classic American invention. I decided a long time ago I wouldn’t change my last name and when I met my FI it only strengthened my resolve. 😛
Post # 9
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Newbee
Maybe talk to him some more and keep your name? He shouldn’t give you hard time about it if keeping your name means a lot to you.
I was always sure I would change my name when I got married and I think I will as I’m kind of in an opposite situation. Although surprisingly, my name has kind of grown on me and I think I will be kind of sad to see it go. That said, my fiances name is half the length and much easier to spell lol
Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
My last name is easy to spell and pronounce. FI’s is longer and more difficult to pronounce. It will be an interesting adventure when I do the name change. Names are just random strings of letters anyway, but I do see how it does take a bit of a mental change to take his name. If you really don’t want to change your name, you don’t have to!
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