Name change help!

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I can’t speak to mailing it in but my marriage certificate doesn’t say my new name anywhere either and I’ve never had a problem. They just see his last name and that works. 

Post # 3
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Can you just print out your name, cut it out and glue it to the paper? Worst case you use a small font or glue it a little bit over the printed text. They will know what’s printed underneath, they see those forms a gazillion times a day. 

Post # 4
119 posts
Blushing bee

I thought it was going to have to wait for hours, at SSA, but was super surprised that it took 21 minutes, from locking my car door, to getting back in my car. He did say that in the morning, it was pretty busy, but by the afternoon, it was a ghost town. I live in a congested, metro area, so I was a bit surprised.

DMV still took 1.5 hours, even with an appointment! The line going out the door, and around the building for those without an app’t was mind boggling. 

If I were you, I’d bite the bullet and go down to SSA. What you want to do isn’t particularly common, and you want them to get that right, because that will be your legal name. 

As for your marriage registry not having your new married name on it, that doesn’t matter at all. Your name gets changed at SSA, not at your ceremony. You could put one name, on your marriage registry, then change your mind, and decide on a different name, when you’re at SSA. 

Post # 5
1041 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not sure where you live but where I live what you’re wanting to do is a full legal name change. Here after marriage you can keep your maiden name, go by your married name or hyphenate. Any other changes (like dropping your middle name) would be grounds for a whole new name change and its a hell of a lot of work and way more paperwork. I wanted to do something similar but it wasn’t worth the headache for me. 

Post # 6
1647 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

The state I got married in also does not have a place for “new name,” and I filed my SS name change in a different state and had no issues. Some states do require that, but as long as the local SS office is filing your form I don’t think you’ll have an issue.

As for having room, you can download and fill out the SS application on your computer, then print it out.

Post # 7
241 posts
Helper bee

My marriage license didn’t include my “married name” either- it’s a non issue.  I also double barreled my maiden name and married name, no hyphen- but kept my middle name. I strongly suggest going into the SS office.  It went a lot quicker than I thought it would, but because double barreling isn’t that common, you want to make sure it is done correctly the first time.  I didn’t have any issues at my SS office, but the DMV was a nightmare.  Even though I had my new SS card with my new legal name clearly stated, for some reason the DMV could not get it right and I had to spend hours getting my license reprinted multiple times in one visit. I feel like getting corrections at the SS office would be even more tedious.  

Post # 8
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I really think you should take the time to go to the SSA in person, especially since you plan to drop your middle name. That way, you can confirm that everything is correct before they submit your application (they usually give you a print out with your new name, address, etc. so that you can review and make any necessary edits). I double-barreled my last name in my first marriage and I had to explain to the SSA clerk exactly what I wanted a couple times, because she originally added a hyphen.

My marriage license doesn’t include my married name, and I had no issues there, so I wouldn’t worry about that.

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