Name change in New Jersey – Maiden as Middle

posted 1 year ago in New Jersey – North Central New Jersey
Post # 2
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Hi Bee! I am an NJ bride (second time around) and I’ve changed my name here. 

Middle names are no big deal, whatever you choose to write down is what they’ll go with. You’ll just need your birth certificate, & marriage license. The paperwork is usually filled out at the social security office. 

It’s been a few years but I hope that helps! 

Post # 3
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3560 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

sterl17 :  so, just to clarify – you’ve already gotten married? or you’re planning to change your name through marriage? because if you’re doing it THROUGH marriage, then it’s pretty simple – the paperwork for the marriage license just asks you what your married name will be (and i believe NJ allows you to change your middle name, too). if you’re already married and now want to change your name, it’s a different process as you have to petition the court.

Post # 6
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3560 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

sterl17 :  the name change field wouldn’t be on the license itself, it would have been on the paperwork you filled out in order to obtain the license (the licesnse only lists you name after marriage, which would be identical to your maiden name if you didn’t change it)

Post # 9
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3446 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

NJ bee, here. My situation may be different because I got married out of state, and the paperwork required I put my current name, and also the new name I was going to have. I didn’t exactly change my middle name, but I added my maiden name as my second middle name. I just filled out the form and sent in the marriage license that had my new name on it. SS got me my updated card, with all 4 names on it, fairly quickly. This was about a month after I had gotten married. 

When it came to the DMV, they said they could fit all 4 names so it’s just first, maiden initial,  married name on my license. It was fairly seamless as my marriage license included all the necessary info for the change. 

Post # 10
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

sterl17 : Not to be confusing, but I have had multiple last names (long story), two that were changed by the court and one changed by marriage, all in NJ. I didn’t have to go to court to change my name after I got married, similarly to MiniMeow :  I had my marriage license (ML), along with my birth certificate (BC), went to the SS office, filled out the paperwork and they processed the name change. I was issued a new card via the mail; I don’t recall how long it took but it wasn’t long. With the DMV, I had to have the usual “points” to prove my name change, such as bank statement or utility bill with my new name on it (which they’ll do with your new SS card, ML & BC). You could get a new passport before changing your license (you don’t need a license to get a passport) and the state will use that towards your points.

The most annoying thing about changing your name is changing all the credit cards or bank accounts. I still have a credit card in my married name because I can’t be bothered & I don’t use it. HA! Since your social will remain the same, they’ll still be able to track you down if you owe anything (not assuming you do or will, just saying 🙂 ) Because of all the riggamaroll associated with changing my name I haven’t decided whether or not I will do it the second time around but I like the idea of having the same last name especially if we have children. 

 Hope that helps! Also, I didn’t say this before, but congratulations on getting married! 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

sterl17 :  sterl17 :  i did exactly what you’re doing and it was really easy.  I went to social security with my marriage certificate and filled out my name like i wanted it to be. They processed that with no issues and i just brought my new ss card to the dmv with the marriage certificate and whatever else the website said to bring and they changed it no problem.  That lady didn’t know what she was talking about. 

Post # 14
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

sterl17 :  I dropped my given/birth middle name completely and replaced it with a completely different name with no issue. Unless you write down Princess Consuela Banana Hammock I think you’ll be fine. I hope I didn’t age myself too much LOL. 

Also, smart move to wait until after your honeymoon, that way you don’t have to worry about documents not matching during your travels. 

Post # 15
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2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

sterl17 :  New Jersey is one of the few states that makes it difficult to do this, it’s the same in WA where I am and I’m trying to also change my middle name to my maiden name. You can’t just go into SS and change it like you can when you change your last name using a marriage certificate. My friend in AZ was able to do it all at SS, it was super easy but there are 4 states that DO NOT allow you to do it that way.

You’ll need to petition the court to change your middle name, you can’t do it at SS.

I’m not doing it till after the New Year as I have travel planned and don’t want to worry about my plane tickets getting messed up. But, I’m still trying to figure out how to go about this whole thing. Change my last name to my husbands last name, then change my middle name? But then that requires another trip to SS since I’ll have to get another SS card with my middle name changed.

I called SS and they said that in order to change my last name using my marriage certificate, I have to have the same name that’s on my certificate. So, I can’t change my middle name first. 

It’s going to be a bit of a hassle, and I know here in WA it costs like $200 for the middle name change. Might be similar in your state, but I’d look at your courts website for the cost and instructions.

 

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