Name change in New Jersey – Maiden as Middle

posted 1 year ago in New Jersey – North Central New Jersey
Post # 18
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2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

sterl17 :  Yeah, I don’t know. Every google search I’ve done for instructions on doing this in WA comes up with the same thing for NJ and like two other states.

Guess you might just have to go into SS and see what the process is.

ETA maybe they were able to do this because they didn’t have middle names, or one bee had multiple last names so she just dropped one? I think if you are replacing your middle name that’s where it gets tricky?

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

futuremrs2020 :  I literally went to the SS office, filled out the paperwork and wrote down what I wanted my middle name to be. I provided my BC, ML and had no issue. I have/had a middle name given at birth so it was on my BC and replaced it with something else that wasn’t my maiden name. From what I understand your middle name is not as legally important as your first or last.

Long story short, my mother changed my last name when I was a toddler and she had to go to court to have it legally changed. Since getting a divorce involves the court, my divorice papers stated what my “new” name would be so I techincally went through the courts when I changed my middle & last name then too. But when I got married and changed my name it was easy peasy and no court order needed like before. All of these changes were made in NJ. 

Perhaps things have recently changed in the state and I am misinformed but I had no issue and that was 3 years ago. 

Post # 20
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180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

The Social Security office likely isn’t going to question you, because they’re a federal office and don’t follow state rules. The issues can arise when you try to change your license.

Be VERY careful changing your maiden name to your middle name through SS if you don’t want to go through the court name change process. You might get lucky and get an employee at the DMV (or your equivalent) who doesn’t know/follow the rules and will change the name for you. Or, you might end up like my friend, who just went through bureaucratic hell because she changed her maiden name to her middle name with SS, but our state license bureau wouldn’t accept it.

Post # 21
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2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

frenchtoastvegan :  Weird, I really don’t know… everything I’ve found when searching for WA listed NJ as one of the other four states that doesn’t allow it to be done that way either. Probably best to go and try that first since it’s the easiest route, and if they don’t allow it figure out what to do with the courts. GOod luck OP

Post # 22
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

futuremrs2020 :  I hope I didn’t sound rude! I just re-read what I wrote and I was afriad I might have come off alittle annoyed. 

Maybe the rules have changed, I am not completely sure. I guess I’ll be finding out this time next year! 

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