(Closed) Name Change Pickle – How short (time frame) is too short?

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think waiting for a proposal to change your name is the wrong thing to do.  If you want to change it that badly, change it.  But I think it could be misunderstood by your SO as you want a proposal and marriage soon only because of the name change you ‘get’.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Have you thought about the cost (both time AND money) of changing your name?  I have just started the process this week and it is a pain!  I’ve had to take two 2-hour lunches to wait at line at the DMV and Social Security offices this week, and that is just the beginning.  I don’t know what the court costs would be for you to change your name legally.  Also, if you have a passport, it costs $140 to change your name (same as a renewal), and doing that twice (once now, once when you get married) can add up quickly.

right now I am at:

extra certified copy of marriage license- $9

driver’s license name change- $25

Passport name change- $140

Car title and registration change- $33

total of $207 and I have just started- the costs can add up quickly!

Good luck making your decision…

Post # 6
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

You aren’t in a hurry to get married–first answer-what is your perfect time frame to get married? Is it in the next year to 18 months? Have a discussion about what his time frame is that has nothing to do with your name change.

Once you have that answer, you can become clear on how to tackle the name change. It is time consuming and expensive, but if you *feel* it the right thing to do, then any amount of time and expense will be worth it.

Can you change your name socially, but not legally? Ask friends and co-workers to clal you by you Mom’s name and wait to change it legally once you get married?

Post # 9
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65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance and I went to city hall about a year before our wedding date to clear up some visa issues- so I’ve been through the name change thing. I cannot emphasize enough what a huge pain in the butt it is!  It’s easy to change your name on your driver’s license and social security card, but you don’t even realize half the stuff with your name on it that you’ll have to change. Trust me, if you have to do it at all- only do it once, otherwise you’ll drive yourself crazy

Post # 10
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am in NC.  For me to change my name took about 6 weeks I’d say.  In order to go to the Social Security Office you have to have ‘reason’ such as a marriage document or court ordered change (no clue how long that’d take, a whole another ball game!).  After I had my marriage license the SSC took 3-5 days then I could go to the DMV then a few weeks after that I got my new ID in the mail.  Then I had to do the hardest part – change my name everywhere!!  So much hassle!  I’m still keeping up with it over a year later!  And I changed my name day 1 after our honeymoon!  I still have to deal with people/agencies I don’t deal with more than once a year- like doctors offices, leasing agencies etc.  Banks, insurance, cell phones, IRS forms etc were the first but it’s a lot!  I wouldn’t recommend having to go through that more than once in a 5 year time. 

Post # 12
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sleepingbeauty88: I still say you should change your name socially. It will make you feel better.

Post # 14
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s alot easier to change your name when you get married.  And considering how much of a pain it is to change it due to marriage, I can’t image the pain when there is no marriage involved.  You have to go through the courts and may even have to hire a lawyer to navigate the beast.  I suggest changing your name the least number of times as possible!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I know you really don’t want to have your step-dad’s name, but if a name change is anywhere in your future, I would just wait. I don’t think it should play any part in your proposal, and I wouldn’t mention it to your boyfriend, but the name change is such a pain…and if you have to do it twice, your legal status could get really confused in a short amount of time.

Post # 16
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sleepingbeauty88: Well, if you’ve made the change on FB, that’s official enough!! 🙂

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