(Closed) Name Change Question

posted 8 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Legally, you are going to have to go by First Middle His Last Your Last on anything like tax returns, W2s, insurance, etc.  For personal reasons, you can go by whatever name you want though.

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think you want to risk putting different names on airline tickets since they look at what your legal name is on your driver’s license.

Post # 6
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Im sooo ambivilant about changing last names.  But he really doesnt want me to keep my last name from first marriage. The thing is I got married at 19- so all my work history, college degrees etc are in “abcd”.  Add to that I will be going from 4 letters to 10.  I just dont know what to do…..  Dont really feel like going back to my birth last name either.  Can I just choose Nordstrom- lol

Post # 7
Member
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I say, change your last name, and only use his last name. Change is good:-)

edit: Can you change your daughters last name too? I would also want the same last name as my daughter.

Post # 8
Member
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think it’s legal to have multiple types of IDs with different names.  You have to pick officially one.  You can write it and tell people its the other but you cannot go back and forth between 2.  Airlines especially as we know are very strict on this.  What if they checked your wallet and found multiple ID’s with different names!?  That would be an investigation for sure!

Also personally it’d be to confusing to have 2 names, pick one!

Post # 9
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@retreadbride:I am in the same boat! I got married when I was 15 and was married for a little over 25 years before it was all said and done. Since I didn’t take my maiden name back (saw no reason due to the number of years I had used my married name) I have even considered keeping my current last name and just hyphenating it. I know he has a big problem with that so I will wind up changing my name and dropping my current last name completely. I have explained to it that it has nothing to do with “the ex”…I feel no remorse over the divorce and have no desire to have any more ties to him than necessary…BUT…this has been my last name for 28 years now. It IS just a name but it’s also who I am. Like you said…my college degrees, my certification, everything legal is in that name. I am going to have a LOT of freaking paperwork to do after this marriage. **sigh**

Post # 10
Member
7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am in this boat right now.  We married the last day of July and I am wondering about this now.

I plan to change my name, but am n ot sure what to do.  Licenses for my profession are in my maiden name and my passport and d.l. are in my hyphenated maiden name-x’s last name and I want to simply be either Mrs. Maiden-Married name (to DH) or Mrs. Married name (DH).

I have been doing some serious soul searching on this and after four months you’d think I’d have answers by now but alas, not yet.

It is a pain in the derriere to know you have to go stand in a line at both the social security office and at the dmv and at the post office to go get the social sec. card, the drivers’ license, and the passport all changed to a new name you know?    

Post # 11
Member
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I changed my name back from my married name to my maiden name after my divorce.  What a PIA.  Think of the hundreds of usernames you have for internet sites…that alone took me months.  Credit cards, licenses, my professional licenses  – all took hours each.  I wont be changing my name after this wedding.  Too much work. 

Post # 12
Member
7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It is a quagmire.  A work in progress.  I am  honestly NOT looking forward to all the work, just wish I could blink my eyes and it’s all done.  Where’s a genie when you need one?

 

Post # 13
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I recently read that one can keep the last name and add the married name and use either one as long as you dont hyphnate.  Look under your state and county marriage licence laws.

I was married at 19, divorced at 45- so that is the last name on my diplomas, work history,etc and its only 4 letters long. Mountain Man wants a change- but his is over 10 letters, and again, would have to change everything.   Thinking of dropping maiden name, that was middle name, and going to   First, old married, new married.

 

Post # 14
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@retreadbride: Thinking of dropping maiden name, that was middle name, and going to   First, old married, new married.

That is what I wanted to do but it really bothers the Fiance. Just curious as to how your Fiance responded…or have you mentioned it yet?

As I said in my earlier post…it has nothing to do with the ex. NO ties to him at all! It’s just who I am. I have had this last name for 28 years and changing everything is going to be a royal pain in the aspirin bottle! ugh!

 

Post # 15
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@helenec32  MM is still mulling that option over.  He is just adament that I lose old married last name as primary.  Personally I think I should just change to Nordstrom- hehehe

Post # 16
Member
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m going to keep my maiden name and add his without a hyphen.  It’s pretty common here.   I will probably mainly go by his, but will have mine too on my official paperwork.

I don’t think I would be able to stomach keeping my ex’s last name, even though my son has the same last name.

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