(Closed) Name change question for gals who added FI's last name to their full name

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@An-chan:  +1- I want to choose my name based on what I feel comfortable with- logistics are the last thought in my mind.

I will be having two last names- either hyphenated or not. I love my middle name (I was named after my grandmother and we are very close). I also don’t want two middle names- people hardly use middle names for the most part and it seems (to me personally) a major demotion for my maiden last name. Plus both last names aren’t very long and pretty common so using both last names would make me the only person in google with that name- which I see as a professional advantage. Fiance and I like to consider each other equal partners, so he will be adding my last name as well and we will both be Mylast Hislast. He personally felt it was wrong to ask me to change my name if he wasn’t willing to do the same. Fiance said if Jay Z can do it, he can too, lol. 

Post # 33
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1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I added DH’s last name as a second last name.  I haven’t had any issues other than his last name is long (10 letters) so my name is 5 4 5 10… My full name doesn’t fit on all of my credit cars, so on one I have Jane C. Smith Jones, but the rest say J Smith Jones.  The nice thing about the double last name with no hyphen is that it is my understanding that you don’t have to use both.  I use Jane Smith at work and Jane Jones everywhere else.  I am considering changing my name to Jane Catherine Jones legally if this first baby is a boy.  It would be less explaining and I would be giving my son my maiden name as a middle name so it will be passed on.  I am the end of my maiden name chain so I couldn’t drop it.  I also LOVE my middle name and feel very connected to it (it is the same as my mom’s and is my great grandma’s maiden name). My recommendation would be to wait a few months after the wedding and see how you feel then.  You may feel differently. 

Post # 34
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I have been married since March ’13 and still haven’t changed my name legally.  I have a similar, yet different problem though…  

I want to keep my maiden name as my middle name and add his name as my last name… problem is, I have never used my first name and would like to drop it altogether.

For example:  Mary “Jane” Doe  (marries last name “Smith”) = Jane Doe Smith

From my understanding, my state requires you to go before a judge to petition any “first name” change, which isn’t that big of a deal, but I hold a state professional license under my given name.  UGH!!  At first, I just wanted to keep my name and add his onto the end — and I know your social security card can hold up to 26 characters (including spaces)… and mine would be 26 exactly!  LOL  However, I have come to the realization that I’d rather just be “Jane Doe Smith” legally and socially, but stay Mary Jane Doe for professional purposes.

I’m such a dang procrastinator… I don’t think it would be that big of a deal if I didn’t have legal/attorney fees to deal with, but such is life.  🙂 

Has anyone experienced this?  Are there any medical professionals on the forum that have done something similar, and was it a problem with your licensing?   

Post # 34
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Bumping this thread up. 

 

I would like to know who has changed their LEGAL LAST NAME to their maiden and husband’s last name without a hyphen (not making their maiden name their middle name) so 2 names for their legal last name.

Any issues?

 

 

Post # 35
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have the same question as KayDeee

Post # 36
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489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m glad this thread is here bc when we get our marriage license back I need to dive into the name change game!

Ideally I want my maiden name to be a second middle name but for the marriage license I had to do it as unhyphenated two last names.

Post # 37
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1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

leahthehun:  my name appears like that but my maiden name is technically a second middle name. It’s on my SS card and DL and other legal documents. I chose not to make it a part of my last name to avoid any hassles In the future. My husband actually added my maiden name as his second middle name as well (his idea). 

Socially I go by his last name. At work I went from Dr. Maiden to Dr. New Last Name.

 

Post # 38
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I chose to hyphenate. So I’m Holly Maiden-HisName. Socially, I tend to introduce myself by my hyphenated name or his name. Often, I do just first name. Academically, I go by my maiden name. It’s also nice for me to mentally separate the aspects of my life.

Post # 39
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Has anyone changed their legal name so you have 2 last names without a hyphen and if so have you had any issues with using that combination?

 

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