Post # 1
So my financee has a hyphenanted last name that represents both is mother and fathers side. I’ve never met anyone from his fathers side and they were never really close growing up. I want to change my last name but I personally would only want the last name that represents his mother. Is that okay or since he has two last names am I required to take on both since Im taking on his name after we are married?
Post # 3
You are not required to do anything. What would you like to do?
Post # 4
I agree with occhiblu 100%.
Post # 5
I think you should talk to your Fiance about it but other than that do what you want.
Post # 6
@Panda4Ever: I feel like it was important enough for him to have both and that you should ask him what he wants since you are marrying him. I think sometimes that’s the only plus side for men. They have the pleasure of giving the person they love their lastname. But yes you can do whatever you want I would just consider he’s thoughts as well.
Post # 7
@Panda4Ever: Wikipedia (when it’s back online… I’m in Australia so I have no idea when the black out will end) have a really good article about all the different ways you can use hyphenated names.
It’s completely up to you, I think consult with your Fiance but don’t forget you’re the one changing your identity… It should be a completely comfortable change!
Post # 8
I would discuss it with your Fiance. I think it may be completely fine with him, but on the other hand he may not want it, but theres always the option of yours and his mothers if he is going to continue with his current last name!
Post # 9
I’d talk to your FI about it. I don’t think it’s relevant whether you have met his father/ and or like that side of the family or not, but more importantly what it’s going to mean for you and your Fiance and potentially children later on.