(Closed) Name change vent and warning for newlyweds

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

THIS is why I didn’t change my name (also the SS administration told me that I couldn’t do it the way I wanted to because my name is too long — I didn’t even know they could limit YOUR NAME.)

UGH.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Yeah, getting your name changed in all the right places is a pain in the ass. I was job-hunting at the time, so I actually had to put a note on my resume about my name because it all got to be too confusing. I was married over 3 years ago, and back then I read that you should get your SS card changed first. The reason being that some places (i.e. drivers license) will limit what you are allowed to put on your card, unless you have a Federal document (SS card) that over-rules them. For example, in Texas they don’t like you to have two middle names, but I kept my maiden name as an addition middle name when I married. it is on every legal doc I own, including my driver’s license since I was able to show them that it is my legal name.

If you have the option take one or two days and just do everything. It’s a lot of driving around and calling people and waiting in line, but it beats having a different appointment every week!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

lol don’t even want to think about how much of a pain it is going to be.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It sucks that people have a hard time with this… it seemed like my name change process was a total breeze!  I went to SS first, and then to DMV and was done with both by lunch time!  I did have to wait for things to be mailed, so when I got my ID & SS card I set about going to the bank and calling other companies (power, water, etc) to get them to change my name on their records.  Easy peasy…  I wonder why some places make it so difficult?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@missrain:  What? Texas won’t let me have two middle names? I moved here about a year ago, but haven’t changed my lisence yet, now I really don’t want to. I was born with these names…

 

I want to change my name, but this hassle doesn’t sound fun….haha

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aw bummer!  My name change between the DMV and Social Security took a total of 90 minutes, including the drive to each.  I emailed credit cards and they were changed that day.  The bank took an hour to establish our joint accounts and change my name on all my other accounts.

I’ve found the process to be fairly painless! 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@missrain:  That’s insane!  I have 2 middle names!  (before the attempted name change…)

I hate enough that Michigan makes me hyphenate it on my DL.

But I’ve also heard that you need to start with the SSA, then go to the DMV and THEN change EVERYTHING else: bank accounts, bills, mail, etc.  UGH.  So glad Darling Husband let me skip this mess.

You know if men had to change THEIR names they’d never get around to it.  It was hard enough to get Darling Husband to update his address with the DMV when we bought our house.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I [fortunately] went through the name change process rather smoothly.  I waited like 3 months actually haha, but when I did eventually get around to doing it, I first went to the Social Security office, applied for a new card & waited for them to send it to me.  Like a week later I got my new SS card, went to them DMV & they sent me my new ID within another couple weeks after that.  Slowly but surely I have changed most things over!  Although I just today realized I never change our auto insurance when I called about someting & they asked for my name haha.  That is now done too, no worries ;]

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I have to wait, because I’m going to Span in 5-6 weeks and I won’t have time to get it changed on my passport.

And having a new name on my driver’s license and not my passport would cause me issues, I’m sure. :/

Where I am, though, I have to go to the SS office first and get a letter from them before I can go to the DMV for a new license.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had to do mine ASAP, because I had to turn it in to the government to get a military ID & get onto my husband’s insurance, etc. Luckily it went over fairly smoothly for me!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@rachelmichelle:  I had to make 2 trips to the SSA.  The first was to turn in the application to change my name and bring my marriage certificate.  They needed to let their system process the change overnight so I could come back the next day to get the printout saying my name had been changed with them to take to the DMV and change my license.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@thisorderistall:  Well, I think they allow it, but they are just kind of a pain about it. Honestly, getting my SS card was easy, and once I had that everything else (including license) was a breeze!

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