Name Change when you're a teacher?

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hey!  I had some of the same concerns as you but it really was no problem at all.  I teach middle school.  They picked up the new name like *that* (I did warn them before) and it’s not even an easy one to pronounce.  I got used to it after about a week or two. 

 

Oh and also, around here we call everyone “Madame” as a sign of respect” – never mademoiselle, even if you are unmarried.

 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@bluebelle23:  No, I don’t teach teenagers. I’m the mother of teenagers (multiple ones, natural and step kids). I’m the foster parent of teenagers. I worked with teens until I retired recently. Teenagers aren’t new to me. In fact, I was one at one point in my life…

 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I switched a couple months in to the school year and for the rest of the year, the students referred to me as “my name”.  I hyphenated hisname-myname, and some kids changed, but for the most part, it was “my name” all year long.  And I taught middle school!

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I started teaching 6th graders last August and got married a month later, so I just had them call me by my married name from the get go. It was weird at first but it saved them from the confusion of having to call me something different than what they had been used to calling me. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsSnowMountain:  I’d just keep your maiden name for the entire year, then switch it the following year. That’s what most teachers I’ve known did iftheydidnt get married in the summer. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@MrsSnowMountain:  Your concern was whether your students would adjust to you changing your name. You didn’t think of any of the rest of the stuff until someone else mentioned it. Children as old as your students have likely experienced a bunch of people changing their names, so yours wouldn’t be their first. If you want permission to use a name that isn’t yours until you get married, then do so, but children adjust. How do you alert their parents? Send home a note. You’re likely not the first teacher that has ever gotten married mid year, so your school board will know how to deal with a name change or changing your email, or any other concern you’d have. If they’re anything like my prior job, they’ll give you 2 email addresses and one will forward to your active mailbox. Easy peasy. YOU’RE choosing to make this much better than it is. Don’t call me rude because I see it for what it is.

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m just not changing my name for work purposes.  

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m also a French teacher and hated being called Mademoiselle by my advisor when I was student-teaching. It is demeaning, and no francophone would do it anyway, so it’s wrong.

As for your name, I’d say go ahead and change it mid-semester. It sounds like your students are old enough to get it, and next semester when you have a new class you’ll get a fresh start anyway.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Since you are getting married so close to the start of the school year, I say you go by your married name from the start. I would tell them that you’re getting married soon and didn’t want them to have to get used to a new name so you’re just going to be going by your married name. I’m a HS teacher too, and got married towards the end of the year (Spring Break), and the kids had the HARDEST time calling me by my married name. The next year it was easier and most kids called me by my married name, but some still call me by my maiden name.

 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsSnowMountain:  First of all, I highly doubt your school is going to let you go by your married name until it is legally changed. So, if any official paperwork or website info from school is going to have your maiden name in September, as I imagine it will, I’d have your students call you by that name. High school students are not going to have a hard time with a name change. I say this because I work in an elementary school and it happens every year- kids adjust.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsSnowMountain:  She was rude.  Everyone sees it.  Don’t poke the dragon, she isn’t worth it. 

Again, I’d introduce my new name but wait til the end of the year to officially change it.  Sorry you’ll have to put up with the constant back and forth on your name for a few months.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsSnowMountain:  Over the years my kids have had several teachers to get married. They did not change their name with the kids until the new school year.

 

I had a teacher get married when I was in HS and she changed hers in the middle of the year but we were older than my kids and it was easier to remember.

 

I also remember when I was in HS, a 10th grade English teacher getting married over the summer. I was a senior by that point and had already had her class but I heard rumors that she would write students up if they repeatedly called her by her previous name. Just thought I would throw that out there. I am sure you are not like that.

ETA: I just re-read and, I guess, paid attention to the Madame thing. Why don’t you just have them call you Madame? I know that is not necessarily the norm, but then there is no change mid year.

 

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