Post # 32
@MrsSnowMountain: Our French teacher in HS got DIVORCED in the middle of the year, and went from “Madame” to “Mademoiselle.” Everyone detested her, so other kids made it a point to ask her why she would have gone back to Mademoiselle and changed her name. 🙁
High school kids are bastards! I don’t even really enjoy teaching my college freshman that much, lol. From about 12 to 19, kids need to be locked up!!
Anyway, good luck! I’m sure whatever you choose, it’ll work out!
Post # 33
I personally would choose to use the name change as a life lesson for the children. I think on the very first day of school, you could tell them that you are Mademoiselle L_______ for the first few weeks but that, after October 5, you will be Madame S________ from that point on into the future.
I would write both names on the board (with a “/” or an arrow drawn between them, showing the migration from one name to the other) on the first day and leave them up there every day for your students to see. When you return as Madame S___________, I would erase the Mademoiselle and your maiden name.
Post # 34
I would tell them on the first day that they can call you either name for that school year (or semester) and then switch over to exclusively your married name after that.
Post # 35
I taught kindergarten this year, and I got married about a month before school was out. I was planning on changing my name over the summer, but my coworkers were excited for me so they started calling me Mrs. Hislastname. My kiddos were sooo excited that I got married, and they jumped RIGHT into calling me Mrs. Hislastname. Of course I got called both names, but I didn’t mind. I say just go by your maiden name and after you get married go by his. Your students will be fine with it (even if they do slip up a bit) and your colleagues will be fine as well. :]
Post # 36
@mepayne: The problem with that is I’m getting married in early October, so I’d hate to have to wait so long. Obviously I’m not going to be offended if they slip up though! Hence why just consistently using “Madame” makes sense.
Thanks for everyone’s input, but I’ve pretty much firmly decided I’m going to go for the name change, but use “Madame” right from the beginning.
@Brielle: Thanks for the advice. However I will never use Mademoiselle, partially because I find it demeaning (due to a bad experience while student teaching with the teacher treating me really direspectfully. Long story.) and partially because it really isn’t used any more, especially in France. It’s archaic, and it also sounds really demeaning if you speak French, IMO, like “young lady.” Blech!