(Closed) Name Changes in Your Social Circle

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

I’m 21 from PA changing my name. Everyone i know has changed/will be changing their names.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

My circle is mid 20’s to mid 30’s. Everyone changed their name. In the UK I think its rare for people to keep their names (forgive me if im wrong)-  in fact ive only met 3 people in the UK with hyphenated surnames and I know no one who has kept their own. Where I live its not even questioned- you are assumed to change name. 

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

In my circle, it’s really open.  Some take on the new name, some hyphenate, some add on an additional name, some keep their name, sometimes the couple combine their last names into one, some use a name socially.  The only one I haven’t heard of is doing a full on legal name change with changing the birth certificate, although I guess it’s possible someone did and I was just unaware that they did a full legal change instead of just assuming the name.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am 33, live in Western New York and I am in the process of changing my name.

Almost everyone I know changed their name, though some use both their maiden and married last names (done like middle and last name) on Facebook and sometimes at work. I don’t think I actually know anyone in my social circle who kept their name, though a few of my mom’s friends (50s and 60s) did or hyphenated.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am 28 and been married a year- haven’t changed my name yet but I plan to at some point. I have a cousin who got married a couple years ago and she is 29 and she has not changed her name yet either. I’m in TX and she is in CA.

It’s up to you and your husband- if you both don’t mind that you didn’t change yours, that is really all that should matter.

Are you guys planning on having children?

I ask that because I would want my children to have the same last name as I do- hence why I will change my name at some point. I am just being lazy about it. =o)

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

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ClaudiaKishi:  Honestly I dont think I do! Its pretty crazy really that we are just sort of expected to change names! I’m happy to, but there must be quite a few people who wish they could keep theirs. There are some celebrities that kept their names for professional reasons and people who reverted back to their maiden name after divorce but I havnt heard of anyone who kept their maiden name fully. Maybe we are a bit behind the times and it could be a generational thing!

Post # 23
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Walt Disney World

I have two pretty distinct group of friends. One group is more traditional, the other more modern/liberal. In the traditional group (3 of them), everyone but me changed their name. In my other group of friends 2 out of 4 kept their name, and the other 2/4 changed it a la “Hilary Rodham Clinton.” Also, my brother’s wife did not change her last name.

I know a lot of people who say they only changed it because they wanted the same last name as their kids. While I get that, as a teacher – it doesn’t even cross my mind. In this day and age, there are SO many reasons why kids would have a different last name as their parent, it really doesn’t faze me at all. I can honestly say I make no judgments, or even give it a second thought. When I call a parent, I have THEIR OWN full name in front of me, so it’s rare that I would mistakely call them by the their kid’s last name. But even if I do/did make a mistake – nobody ever gets offended or anything.

I think (hope) we will see more and more keeping of our names. Or more combining of the husband & bride’s names. (Which I have seen a reasonable amount of!!)

While I’m not changing my name, I have committed to not making a huge deal out of it – I won’t ‘correct’ people unless absolutely necessary, and I won’t take offense if someone makes a mistake.

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t know anyone who didn’t change their last name.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

I’m 31, and in my basic social circle most of women have changed their names (getting married in late 20s). Nevertheless, in my professional circle I notice very many who have hyphenated (I hyphenated too). Keeping womans last name is not very popular, and apart of hyphenation we don’t have any options like middle names or different names professionally and socially.

What is more interesting, I would like to see what happens in next generation, when all these children with hyphenathed last names will meet and want to marry… how do they decide about their last names, assuming that women keeping their last names or hyphenating will be the norm?

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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ClaudiaKishi:  I changed my last name. As much as I loved my last name an thought it went perfectly with my first name lol I  have 4 brothers that will live on the family name. My husband is the only boy and his father was the only boy so they were afraid it would die off. I do love my new last name though.

If i did keep my maiden name, no one would bat an eye though. I have a 2 friends who have kept their last name and no one cares!

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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ClaudiaKishi:  Well I stand by my first comment- it’s totally up to you and your husband! If you are both OK with it (however which way you guys decide on) I don’t see why anybody else should dictate what yall do with your last names. I didn’t realize there were so many people who didn’t change their names… I thought I was out of the norm for not having my name changed yet either!

I even asked my husband if he would take my last name… I have a brother and I don’t think he’ll ever have kids and I would hate that we would be the “end” my father’s name but my husband looked at me like I was out of my mind for even asking. At which point I asked if he would be okay if I hyphenated which he continued looking at me like I was crazy. I guess it’s not for everybody! But I would have been open to it. =o)

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have not “Legally” changed my name but use my new last name professionally.  When my passport expires in a year or so I will take the plunge and change my name legally.  

Almost everyone in in my social circle changed their name as far as I know.

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Post # 30
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

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ClaudiaKishi:  Yeah, is a SSN here.  Yes, a legal name change involves changing the name on your birth certificate.  The most common reason I hear of someone doing this is due to a sex change and the person wants a name that fits them better.

Birth/Marriage Certificates

 

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